Francois:

The only other suggestion is to make something on the boat “hers”, something 
she will ultimately know better than you.  In my wife’s case, its handling 
under power.  It could be anything.  Another thing you can try is having a 
“goal”, something that can only be accomplished by the two of you as equals 
working together.  Perhaps a double-handed overnight or a race.  Its no fun 
always being the first officer with no hope of promotion.

John



On Sep 22, 2014, at 5:03 PM, Jean-Francois J Rivard via CnC-List 
<[email protected]> wrote:

> I'll let you guys know how the lessons help.. 
> 
> Racing did not help, she clammed-up even worse for fear that she'd screw 
> something up. Even if on that particular race, everything that could be 
> screwed-up was already taken care of  so no one really cared.  No amount of 
> screwing-up was going to make our last place any worse.  :-) 
> 
> Giving her the helm.. Been there done that, same result. 
> 
> Talking to other wifes.. It depends,  At the club parties it runs the gammut 
> from enthusiastic sailor ladies to killjoys that never come out sailing, just 
> show up for parties..  When she runs into the lather all they say is too hot, 
> too cold, too windy, too sunny, too humid, etc, etc.   then  I'm loosing 
> ground.
> 
> I'm banking on the lessons..  Truth to be told, if you're that much not into 
> the boating thing, just sitting around on a boat is not much more fun than 
> sitting around anywhere else.. Especially given the fact that on the lake, 
> when it's (Really) windy, it's usually not very sunny, often a bit coldish,  
> so you have to look at the big picture to appreciate what's going on.  
> 
> On the plus she's fairly athletic so maybe once she told what's what by 
> someone else and understands better what's going on she'll get into the 
> workout / physical side of it and get a little rush that way... 
> 
> I guess that's typical boat stuff:  one more thing to figure out...
> 
> -Francois
> 1990 34+ "Take Five" 
> Lake Lanier, Georgia.  
> 
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