In agreement with Helen's  observation : "In my circles, amongst educated
>New Zealand women, we often pity men because our observation is that few of
>them have same sex friends. 'We' believe that women are better at
>networking, supporting each other, making friends etc. than men." 

 Or perhaps I am older than most of you
>and that is why my perceptions are different? I am fifty-one.
>

I'd like to say to Helen that as a young Kiwi women (late twenties) I have
also made similar observations about many young men who have friendships
based more on "activities and fun" than meaningful or emotional sharing type
friendships. Whereas the women I associate with develope extremely strong
bonds and "network" very effectively. I could not relate well to the lastest
postings on this list about jealousies and competitiveness between women
that apparently do not influence men in the same way. Australia appears
similar to New Zealand (so perhaps its a hemisphere difference !?!) where
strong women friendships and bonds are common, and jealousies over men or
careers appear to be rare. In addition the male "buddies and mates" culture
appears strong and men stick together in the workplace, although the
friendships may not necessarily go further than that. There are always
exceptions however.

Toni

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