Heya ecofems,
I've been reading these messages, and I'm always alarmed about how even
enlightened, progressive, obviously non-homophobic people feel the
need to preface every comment that defends gay rights with the "I'm not
gay, but..." or "by the way, I'm straight" disclaimer. I understand that
on one hand maybe you do it because you think it will make your argument
stronger (you believe in this so strongly that you will fight for it
although you are not *it*), but it smacks of an icky kind of separatism.
Wouldn't it seem that part of what you are fighting for would be that
people wouldn't have to be so uptight about their preferences, that they
wouldn't feel the need to create these us vs. them categories (even if
"us" is helping out "them")?
It reminds me of all the people in my women's studies classes who are so
obsessed with making it known that "i'm not a feminist but..." then go on
to say something classically, obviously feminist.
Just some thoughts,
Lagusta
