Why are people afraid of passion and controversy? We do not have to be
nice or sweet or even considerate, some of these issues affect us
personally and we care about them, that might be why we get charged up. I
would rather leave this list this try to curb my emotions. We should be
fired up and angry, we should feel comfortable enough to say it like we
feel it. I am glad we don't all agree; we shouldn't. don't we have
something to learn? I for one feel challenged and inspired when someone
writes in backed up by their emotions and anger, it is real and raw and
something I'd like to see more, not less.
Also, as a woman, I often get the response from men (and sometimes women)
that I should try to use a gentler tone or "calm down" and "not get so
worked up" and I think this is a way to get me to shut up. The very same
men love it when we agree and I am all fired up, they just hate it when I
challenge them and when I am pointing out something they might be wrong
about. I am really skeptical of such criticism since so often it wouldn't
be directed at men. My boyfriend and I argue in quite similar ways and I
get told 9 times out of 10 to calm down, while he does not.
Just some food for thought,
Candi
-----Original Message-----
Sent: Friday, October 16, 1998 1:45 PM
To: STUDIES IN WOMEN AND ENVIRONMENT
Subject: RE: family size,etc.
Why do these discussions always turn into a ranting and raving scream
fest? Discuss but stop getting so personal and angry. I think most of us
basically agree on things around here - that's why we are all on an
eco-feminist list server. I'll admit that I occasionally like to ruffle
feathers to stir up controversy but this group always seems to turn into
one of those shout matches on television. It's very tiresome. Let's talk
about something positive.
