On Thu, 17 Nov 1994, Ani Mareck wrote:
> someone wrote:
>
> > i think part of asserting ourselves is pointing out
> this type of sexism to men directly
>
> IMHO to "point out sexism directly" is to place ourselves in the traditional
> female role of protecting ourselves by controlling the 'stronger' and 'favor
> endowing' male. The point of 'educating' the male is IMHO again, that they will
> treat us right. That indicates that we are victems of their behaviour. Is this
> a healthy way of preceiving interpersonal relationships?
>
i would posit that women currently *are* survivors of many men's behavior
(and perhaps victims when they are killed as a result of mysogyny).
i do not think that this (stronger/weaker) is a healthy way of interpreting
interpersonal relationships ideally, but i think that it is a very
accurate way of looking at current relationships between women and men
which are, in my opinion, largely dysfunctional.
i am open to suggestions; what are alternative ways of fighting sexism
perpetrated by men without confronting them on it?
amanda
aka someone
p.s. i don't know what IMHO stands for...
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amanda said:
> i am open to suggestions; what are alternative ways of fighting sexism
perpetrated by men without confronting them on it?
IMHO (in my humble opinion) women have spent eons of energy attempting to make
ourselves safe by controlling the larger and stronger men around us.
Trying to get others (usually men) to take care of us, whether it is to quit
raping us or to help us raise children is a classic victem posture. We have to
quit being victems.
Maybe we have been suppressed and fearful for so long, we don't know any other
way.
Anybody have any ideas?
