I would like to answer the first question with my personal situation: my wife loves me a lot, perhaps more that I do, she understands me like no one else, she tolerate me a lot! I mean, love changes over the years, I think that to understand is to love.
About the second question. I think it's a reciprocity issue that involves principles and for me, I feel happy when I can get the other person be happy, it's something mutual. Thank you!, Pablo On Jan 9, 1:44 pm, Lílian <[email protected]> wrote: > Hi, dear friend, nice to have you back! > > The concept of love is wide but I will make it short here. I believe > that real love implies understanding. Understanding does not > necessarily means agreeing, rather respecting. If we are talking about > a man/woman love relationship, no matter how different they are, if > they claim they love each other, the differences shall be respected > and they shall make all the effort it takes to make the relationship > work. So, replying to the first question, I think that there is > nothing to be chosen, if I am loved, I am understood. > > The second question hides in itself another question: how do we deal > with our self-esteem, with our selfishness and pride?if we are happy > only by loving, it means we love to love. The object of our love is > love itself. The other person's importance is diminished by our > feeling of love. So we do not care whether we have a feedback or not. > On the other hand, if we are happy by being loved by someone else, we > care only about receiving love. So, in reply to the second question, > I would not be happy in any of these cases. :) > > Best regards to you! Nice weekend! > > Lil > > On Jan 9, 12:12 pm, pln471 <[email protected]> wrote: > > > Dear all old,new and young, ;) > > > It's great to be back posting again! > > > I've got 2 not so easy questions for all of us to think about and to > > discuss. > > > 1 Which do you prefer,to be loved or to be understood? > > > 2 Which makes you happier,to love somebody or to be loved by somebody > > else? > > > Please tell us why so or why not so. > > > Thank you and nice weekend to you all! > > --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "English Learner's Cafe" group. To post to this group, send email to [email protected] To unsubscribe from this group, send email to [email protected] For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/english_learners?hl=en -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
