--- In [email protected], "curtisdeltablues" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > I think I want to change my TB friends because they are not happy. > > > > I know I don't have that kind of power. > > > I guess I'm not close enough to any TBs to care. I'm sure I'd feel as > you do if I did. > > I spent some interesting time helping families get their TB sons and > daughters out of the group involvement at a level that was > dysfunctional and unsustainable. It was a slow process and took the > ability of the family to have an intervention so they would at least > stay with it for a day or two before we could get through to buy more > days out of their curiosity. It was a fascinating look at the > structure of my own TB while in the movement. Like hacking the human > belief system operating system. I think you would enjoy hanging out > with some of the guys who taught me. They were very sensitive > insightful people. In any case it took a lot of prep and about a week > to really get anywhere, which is unrealistic for most people. The > phobic responses to even hearing the opposite POV are really strong > and rooted in the person's identity structure held together by their > beliefs. It is no joke to even get close to interacting with that > level of a person's identity. > > Oh my. I take it that the TBs were relatively young? And it worked?
I rarely discuss belief issues with my TB friends anymore. I had the experience of trying to convince one friend to take a certain course of action and she screamed at me, disowned me (temporarily), and is no less firm in her stance. Now Sandiego and I have very different beliefs but we can have a civil conversation on this forum, and he is one of the few here that always answers my questions. I appreciate that. He also never screams at me. I like that. :) Kisses Sandiego!
