--- In [email protected], "Jeff Fischer" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > > > Petty tyrants are able to be tyrants only because people > > allow them to do so. Stand up to them, especially in a > > way that makes them look ridiculous or causes others to > > laugh at them, and they turn back into what they always > > were, timid little mice given power before they were > > mature enough to handle it. > > > > Unc > > Nice job: Confronting suppression. They are cowards and wilt when one > stands his ground.
> Jeff Its a nice story. However, I have found in my experience, such direct confrontations do not usually have such a happy ending. Responses-in-kind usually create escalating responses-in-kind, pitta-levles and ego issues flair and a "small" issue grows to a larger issue, ultimately on that is harder to resolve. My experience is that the cycle neeeds to be halted. Fire needs three things: heat, O2 and fuel -- take one away and the fire collapses. I find that adding fuel to the fire usually doesn't put it out. Though sometimes it does create such a huge "shock and awe" -- it actually blows the flames out (as it appeared to do in your case). More often however, it simply escalates pettiness on both sides. I have found that simple stepping out side the cycle, and not reacting to the aggressor / petty tyrant, stops the cycle, takes away the fuel or O2, without the danger inherent in "shock and awe" tactics -- addng fuel to the fire. And stepping away from perceived abuses and ego threats grow easier as ego beomes more transparent, and attention becomes more soaked in Awareness . To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
