--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Vaj <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > On Aug 31, 2008, at 8:34 AM, Vaj wrote: > > > > > On Aug 31, 2008, at 2:20 AM, TurquoiseB wrote: > > > > > > What I'm wondering is whether abandonment -- ignoring > > > them completely -- is the best thing that we could > > > possibly do for them? What happens in a clinical set- > > > ting when you just basically IGNORE someone with BPD? > > > > The few people I knew who actually ended up being Borderlines all > > followed a similar pattern: > > > > Above average intelligence, successful working for themselves or > > "in charge" and with a certain amount of charisma. The problem > > was they'd draw you in with something interesting. They'd draw > > you in real close, revealing intimate details, etc. and you get > > to be close very quickly....then they blast you with their rage > > when you get close. Since they see the world largely in black or > > white, you fall into the black side of things and are devalued > > and looked upon as if evil. It's all your fault! > > I should have also hastened to point out that treatment for this > particular personality disorder is not only extremely difficult > to accomplish in a clinical setting, it also does not respond > well to any sort of direct confrontation, certainly not finger- > pointing. This will only close off communication and forestall > or stop treatment or progress. IOW you wouldn't, after years of > knowing someone with this issue, approach them and reveal your > diagnosis upon them. Forget about a family intervention(!). > You'd very likely never, ever hear from that person again unless > it was to vent their spleen, liver and tongue on you. > > It's also not a good idea to perform such diagnosis on discussion > lists, for the above reasons and that it's medically unethical.
Good point about being medically unethical, even though I'm not a doctor. Good point also about not risking confrontation and intervention with BPD's in a family situation. But as for doing so on discussion lists, the venting is already a done deal, so isn't the possible "up side" of very likely never, ever hearing from that person again worth the risk? :-)
