We need to ask Sondheim about this. Leonard once said that during the time while he was pretending to be a hetero married guy all that sex energy was sublimated into his music. The result was the score to West Side Story. It was, he said, "the most creative period of my life."
--- On Sun, 9/28/08, new.morning <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: From: new.morning <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: TMers: Do You "Space Out"? To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com Date: Sunday, September 28, 2008, 8:56 PM --- In FairfieldLife@ yahoogroups. com, Peter <drpetersutphen@ ...> wrote: > > Lack of fucking will make you spacey. Good fucking makes you very centered and present. Also an occasional chicken sandwich before or after fucking will make you grounded too. What about bad fucking? (opps I spaced out -- there is no such thing.) On a slightly more serious note, SSRS said a couple of things about sex that I found interesting. One he asked, "You know people who have lots of sex? They are generally not so creative." Well sex may be grounding but does not make one "sparking" with ideas and insights -- in my experience. YMMV. And I have found, at times, sex can make me spacey. (Maybe its being with airheads, i don't know.) Maybe its a AV type thing. I am pitta - kapha. I am guessing you (Peter) are pitta vata. Maybe sex grounds vata and spaces out kapha types. And (a lot of ) sex can make me tired. Grounded but dull? Another thing SSRS said was "Bramacharya is not a practice, its a happening". (Probably not referring to the Be-ins of the 60's). There is a certain mode, I have found, where sex does become irrelevant. Its an in the zone thing. Bright, happy, creative and energetic. But sex is elsewhere, Its not an aversion or denial or lack of desire. its just not there. Its "over there", if at all, and not relevant. My experience is that is not a spacey state at all -- but quite grounded, sparky, creative, "together", flowing, rapid results kind of state. I assume SSRS, SBS an others are in some zone like that and much more. And didn't need sex or chicken sandwiches for grounding. They say Einstein was a hound dog though. (Want to come up to my flat and see my equations?) On the other hand, I have found (prolly too small a sample to be significant) that a band or artists first CD is the most creative. Of first 1-3. After that, they may mature stylistically and in their craft, but that awesome originality and creative spark is missing. All that sex now available to them after they make their big break -- could be a factor. > > > > --- On Sun, 9/28/08, Bhairitu <[EMAIL PROTECTED] .> wrote: > > > From: Bhairitu <[EMAIL PROTECTED] .> > > Subject: Re: [FairfieldLife] TMers: Do You "Space Out"? > > To: FairfieldLife@ yahoogroups. com > > Date: Sunday, September 28, 2008, 7:51 PM > > It may well be that many "great Indian saints" who > > were said to go into > > "spontaneous samadhi" were just "spacing > > out." We know how Indians are > > and they'll make such overblown observations. Brigante > > said a while > > back that on his TTC that Maharishi said "Indians were > > like Americans on > > drugs." I think, unless they have been exposed and > > have had to adapt to > > western culture (such as Indians who attend universities > > her to get > > advanced degrees) they often have the emotional maturity of > > an 11 year > > old. But that also suggests a vata disposition. > > > > Meditation of any kind, as ayurveda states, usually > > increases the ether > > element. It is to help you rise about the muddy earth > > element. But > > what if you are already a "space case." I would > > lay the spaciness more > > to bad vegetarian diet or having such a diet if it is > > inappropriate for > > your constitution. Remember that many Indian yogis use > > ashwaganda and > > brahmi in conjunction with their practice which helps tone > > the nervous > > system and ground out. Yogis know the importance of > > grounding out > > whereas too many western meditators just want to fly away > > like a leaf. > > How many TM'ers you know need "lots of rest" > > indeed up to 10 to 12 hours > > of sleep? Whereas I see progress if I only need 4 to 6 > > hours of sleep. > > I also wonder if westerners because of their dispositions > > accomplish > > just as much in a fraction of the time meditating that an > > Indian does? > > > > BTW, of that list I'm sure you'll find a lot of > > aging boomers who have > > never meditated relating to those symptoms. Maybe it's > > the fluoride in > > the water? They're known as "senior moments" > > and sometimes by balancing > > the doshas they start to go away. > > > > Vaj wrote: > > > Great article from John Knapp. > > > > > > Transcendental Meditators: Do You "Space > > Out"? > > > Posted by John M. Knapp, LMSW at 9/25/2008 03:46:00 PM > > > Transcendental Meditation & Dissociation > > > > > > In my cult counseling practice, I'm often asked > > about "dissociation. " > > > Many people don't know what it is. Or if they > > experience it. > > > > > > In TM, we called it "spacing out," > > "blissing out," being a "space > > > cadet," or many other dismissive names. > > > > > > But what did we mean? And what's the big problem > > with it? A lot of > > > people enjoy "blissing out." > > > > > > Basically, dissociation is any gap in the major > > identity or cognitive > > > functions: awareness, memory, conscious thought, > > certain language > > > abilities, and of course identity itself. > > > > > > We all dissociate sometimes. We daydream, get lost in > > thought, stare > > > off into space, forget for a moment where we are, or > > lose track of our > > > surroundings when deeply involved with a book. > > > > > > But, in extreme cases, our main personality disappears > > during the gap > > > â€" and another alter may take over. This is > > full-blown Dissociative > > > Identity Disorder, what used to be called Multiple > > Personality > > > Disorder. This is rare. > > > > > > The point is dissociation exists on a spectrum, from > > mild and > > > pleasurable to severely disabling. > > > > > > Dissociation is only a problem when it causes pain or > > difficulty > > > functioning in daily life. > > > > > > Some cultic studies scholars believe cultic > > organizations teach trance > > > states, a form of dissociation, because they increase > > suggestibility â€" > > > with obvious benefits to groups that control and > > indoctrinate members. > > > (Not all scholars agree with the link between trance > > and > > > suggestibility. This article offers evidence against > > the > > > suggestibility hypothesis.) > > > > > > Purposefully teaching dissociation to increase > > suggestibility seems > > > likely to me. Every cultic group I've worked with > > promoted > > > dissociation through trance, meditation, Ericksonian > > or classic > > > hypnosis, chanting, speaking in tongues, group > > criticism sessions, > > > singing hymns for hours, observing lengthy religious > > rituals, > > > protracted group workshops, lengthy baffling group > > instruction, > > > interminable incomprehensible videos, yoga, or other > > methods. > > > > > > This doesn't mean dissociative techniques > > can't be pleasurable â€" or > > > beneficial. But like so many good things in life, they > > may be > > > perverted by leaders with dishonorable intentions. And > > like salt, a > > > little adds flavor and is necessary for life. But a > > lot can kill you. > > > > > > Dissociation is one of our primary defense mechanisms. > > Most readers > > > have heard of the "fight or flight > > response": The body pumps out > > > adrenaline when presented with danger. To this > > scholars add "freeze": > > > Responding to a frightening stimulus with a > > "deer-in-the- headlights" > > > response, in the hope the danger will go away by > > itself. > > > > > > I'd add to the physical fight-flight- or-freeze > > triad two cognitive > > > defenses: "appease" and "avoid." > > Most mammals exhibit an appease > > > response: Think of a low-status dog presenting his > > belly to a > > > threatening dominant pack leader. We humans may bow > > and scrape before > > > a threatening boss, for instance. > > > > > > "Avoiding" takes many forms: simply staying > > away from hostile places > > > and people, to denial, to mentally checking out â€" or > > dissociating â€" > > > when all other defense methods fail. Our minds protect > > us from > > > overwhelming stress. > > > > > > The classic example is the child who is raped. At the > > time, the child > > > may lose consciousness or enter into a fantasy world. > > Later as an > > > adult, the raped adult-child may dissociate â€" or > > even develop alters â€" > > > to protect the mind against the extreme stress of the > > painful memory > > > or self loathing. People with post-traumatic stress > > disorder tend to > > > dissociate. > > > > > > It's easy to understand how harsh criticism fits > > into this model. > > > Being denounced in front of a group is excruciating. > > It makes sense > > > the mind checks out. > > > > > > But what about chanting or meditating? > > > > > > It's possible trance is a response to the boredom > > of repeating a > > > mantra or maintaining a blank mind. Or it may be > > trance is just an > > > alternative way of invoking a natural response â€" a > > kind of "back > > > door," just as we can hike our adrenaline by > > visualizing a dangerous > > > situation when none is present. > > > > > > Eastern meditation cults, or any group practicing > > extensive chanting > > > or meditation, seem to cause unusually high levels of > > dissociation for > > > some people in my experience. (I find fewer problem > > reports from > > > mindfulness meditation practitioners â€" although > > I've worked with > > > followers of Goenka who report dissociation. ) > > > > > > Mantra-based and similar meditations themselves are > > forms of learned, > > > voluntary, and controlled dissociation. > > > > > > For most people 20 or 30 minute meditations are not > > only not > > > dangerous, they appear to be beneficial â€" and > > enjoyable. Meditation is > > > one of Nature's miracles, I believe. > > > > > > But some people report meditation practice can lead to > > involuntary, > > > uncontrolled "spacing out" in daily life. > > Some groups have members > > > meditating for 4 or 8 hours a day. (TM is one of > > these.) It appears > > > the mind overlearns meditative states, and they may > > occur > > > spontaneously and without conscious control in daily > > life. For some of > > > my clients, this causes difficulty leading a normal > > family or > > > professional life. > > > > > > A side point: Trance and meditation appear to become > > addictive for > > > some people. (You may be interested in this article on > > trance addiction.) > > > > > > Whatever mechanism allows meditation to induce > > dissociation, for a > > > significant minority of meditate excessively, it > > becomes involuntary > > > and dysfunctional. > > > > > > Many long-term meditating clients initially deny > > dissociating in daily > > > life. > > > > > > But after reviewing the symptoms, some tell me > > they've dissociated for > > > years. > > > > > > Are you dissociating? Is it a challenge in your life? > > > > > > Below is a list of possible symptoms. Nobody > > experiences all of them. > > > Even experiencing a few â€" if they interfere with > > your life â€" is a > > > matter for concern. > > > > > > I've also linked to an online test that may > > indicate if you are > > > experiencing dissociation. Please feel free to report > > your own > > > experiences of dissociating in the comments below â€" > > maintaining your > > > anonymity if you choose. > > > > > > > > > Depersonalization: Symptoms of Losing Identity (Gaps) > > > > > > You sometimes stare off into space, not thinking and > > unaware of > > > passing time > > > You sometimes feel like a "witness" to what > > is happening to your body > > > When driving, you sometimes realize you don't > > remember all or part of > > > the trip > > > Listening to someone talk, you sometimes realize you > > did not hear what > > > was just said > > > You sometimes talk aloud to yourself when you are > > alone > > > You sometimes find yourself somewhere, with no idea > > how you got there > > > You have no memory of some important life events, for > > example wedding, > > > graduation > > > You sometimes feel your body does not belong to you > > > You sometimes remember a past event so vividly you > > feel you are > > > reliving it > > > You sometimes aren't sure whether things you > > remember really did > > > happen or a dream > > > Sometimes you can't remember if you did something > > or just thought > > > about doing it > > > You sometimes find a familiar place strange and > > unfamiliar > > > Watching TV or reading, you sometimes become so > > absorbed you're > > > unaware of the room around you > > > You sometimes get so involved in a fantasy or daydream > > it feels as if > > > it is really happening (may be understood as a > > "vision") > > > You act so differently from situation to situation you > > like two > > > different people > > > You find yourself dressed in clothes you don't > > remember putting on > > > You sometimes find new things among your belongings > > you do not > > > remember buying > > > Sometimes people approach you whom you don't know. > > They may call you > > > by another name or insist you've met them before > > > You notice or are told you sometimes do not recognize > > friends or > > > family members > > > You sometimes are accused of lying when you do not > > think you are > > > You sometimes look in a mirror and do not recognize > > yourself > > > You sometimes find you are able to do things with > > amazing ease and > > > spontaneity that usually are difficult for you > > (sports, work, social > > > situations, etc.) > > > You sometimes find evidence you've done something > > you don't remember > > > doing > > > You sometimes find writings, drawings, or notes you > > have done but > > > don't remember doing > > > You sometimes hear voices that tell you what to do or > > comment on what > > > you're doing > > > > > > > > > Derealization: Symptoms of Losing Connection to > > Reality > > > > > > You sometimes feel like you are falling into a void > > > You sometimes feel like you are "outside your > > body" â€" alongside, above > > > or behind > > > You sometimes feel like you are floating > > > You sometimes feel kuje you and your surroundings do > > not seem real > > > You sometimes see stationary objects appear to move > > > Sometimes people and objects appear far away or > > unclear > > > You sometimes see surroundings through a diffused > > light, fog or mist > > > (or "fiery" light) > > > Sometimes your whole body enveloped in light > > > You sometimes feel your body is expanded â€" feels > > huge/larger than normal > > > You sometimes feel your body has shrunk to minute > > proportions/ smaller > > > than normal > > > You sometimes feel your body is being pressed to the > > ground > > > You sometimes are unusually sensitive to light and > > sound > > > You sometimes have tunnel vision > > > You sometimes find you can ignore pain > > > > > > > > > You'll find a valid, reliable online questionnaire > > for dissociation > > > here. If you found yourself saying "yes" to > > several of the symptoms of > > > dissociation above, I recommend you check it out. > > > > > > You may be able to do some self-help with techniques I > > mention here. > > > > > > But if you continue to experience discomfort or > > difficulty functioning > > > due to dissociation symptoms, I suggest you speak > > about it with a > > > mental health professional â€" if only to ease your > > mind. > > > > > > John M. Knapp, LMSW > > > Therapist. Cult counselor. Coach > > > KnappFamilyCounseli ng.com > > > > > > ------------ --------- --------- ------ > > > > To subscribe, send a message to: > > FairfieldLife- subscribe@ yahoogroups. com > > > > Or go to: > > http://groups. yahoo.com/ group/FairfieldL ife/ > > and click 'Join This Group!'Yahoo! Groups Links > > > > > > >
