--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "Rick Archer" <r...@...> wrote: > > From: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com [mailto:fairfieldl...@yahoogroups.com] > On Behalf Of raunchydog > Sent: Thursday, August 20, 2009 11:55 PM > To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com > Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: FW: It was good enough for Senators Obama and > Biden... > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com > <mailto:FairfieldLife%40yahoogroups.com> , "Rick Archer" <rick@> wrote: > > > > I posted it in all sincerity and signed the petition myself (for what it's > > worth). I'm very sorry about what happened to your niece and I'm afraid I > > don't have answers to the important questions you asked. It's hard for me > to > > imagine being the victim of such violence. I could give you philosophical > > musings about karma, free will, etc., but we just make ourselves feel good > > with those things. You're right. We do live in a sick society. You and I > > live in pockets of relative sanity, but far too many people have been > going > > through hell for far too long. I could argue that men have been the > victims > > of their fair share of violence too, mostly as soldiers, but then men have > > been primarily responsible for starting the wars (although Condi probably > > played a significant part in starting the last one). So I can only give > you > > platitudes and sympathy and my sincere hopes that we are indeed shifting > > into a more enlightened age. Let's each individually continue to > contribute > > all we can to facilitating that shift, and be careful not to do anything > to > > impede it. > > > > Thanks, Rick. I don't know if I see a moral equivalency between killing > soldiers and raping women. Soldiers enlist and at least have a fighting > chance. In countries blown to bits by war, chaos is a way of life and raping > women is a sport. Sick, indeed. I'll see you at Lobe sack's town hall. > Good point. One observation, perhaps invalid, is that women "enlist" in > relationships with the wrong guys, just as soldiers are often duped into > enlisting for reasons other than those for which the war is actually being > fought. Both go through hell as a consequence. >
This goes to my earlier question. Is it reasonable to ask: Was my niece asking for it? Was she provoking it? The blame always seems to be on the woman. "Choose a better partner." "Shut up and don't talk back." "What did you do to piss him off?" Geez, why is it so difficult to say misogyny is wrong and men are the perpetrators of violence against women instead of blaming the women?
