--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "Rory Goff" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "sparaig" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > Can't any of you see that Rick is the one who is wrong here? Not > > for what he said or did that caused the anger (that's his > > business) but because he dismissed his friend's anger by the old > > copout "it's OK, I still love you?" > > Not really, no. His stance felt genuinely mature and loving to me. I > don't see that he rejected anything other than his friend's > rejection.
Well, but it isn't exactly Rick's to reject, is it? I was about to agree with Sparaig, but then I went back to find Rick's exact wording about what he said to his friend: "I told him he can think what he wants about me, but he can't stop me from loving him." That's not so bad. It doesn't invalidate his friend's anger, and it leaves the door open for reconciliation if his friend is so inclined. On the other hand, it sure doesn't convey any concern for the fact that his friend is angry and hurt. It's all about Rick's feelings, not about those of his friend. And "You can't stop me from loving you" may well be a statement of fact, but it also sounds like it could be a putdown: See how much more mature and loving I am than you are? If that's *all* Rick said, I don't think he really thought it through very well in terms of how his friend might feel after reading it. To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
