Dear Ann, I gave it my last shot this year. My father went after me, got nowhere, and then went after my daughter. That was the final straw and I stood up for her. I see no other way it could have turned out. I look forward to taking responsibility in the future for creating my own holiday traditions for myself and my children. Thank you for your cogent thoughts as you are on the mark, as usual. Compassionately, Emily.
________________________________ From: awoelflebater <[email protected]> To: [email protected] Sent: Saturday, November 24, 2012 6:50 AM Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: to laughinggull a new kind of good life --- In [email protected], Emily Reyn <emilymae.reyn@...> wrote: > > Dear Share:  This post of yours below is very dismissive and demeaning. >  Raunchy was being very up front and considerate in her post to you and you > provided no information at all about what you think.  You exited stage left > again.  Are you one of those people who hold grudges for life?  Thank you > for your kind thoughts for my Thanksgiving.  It was absolute hell despite > the advance preparations I made and I will never do another one with either > of my beloved parents in this lifetime, quite seriously.  There is something > about a dinner table in our family that is not a good thing. Don't despair. I no longer have either of my parents left alive or one of my sisters and although I miss them at various times for different reasons there are times when it is a kind of a relief to be spared the hideous dynamics that sometimes accompany family life. And holiday get togethers and meals could certainly be one of those types of dynamics which I do not miss. The combination of old wounds, alcohol, pent-up emotion all enter the cauldron and it can produce a mighty unsavoury brew. I think it is very common for people to feel this way after a family gathering and not something you should feel terrible about other than you could hope it could have been otherwise. Sometimes/mostly these things are not in your control and all you can do is live through them and figure more stuff out about life. Maybe you'll feel differently next year and want to give it another shot or maybe not.  Luckily, I have gained immeasurable perspective from participating and reading everyone here at FFL, including you.  Luckily, raunchy posted that lovely poem about rutabagas.  Compassionately, Emily.   > > ________________________________ > From: Share Long <sharelong60@...> > To: "[email protected]" <[email protected]> > Sent: Wednesday, November 21, 2012 3:46 AM > Subject: Re: [FairfieldLife] Re: to laughinggull a new kind of good life > > >  > dear RD, glitch equals stress. Everybody excepts saints, etc. has such to > greater or lesser degree. And they got it right when they said that the > later ones to go are the real biggies. Hope you and your family have a > wonderful Thanksgiving. You too, Emily in case your lurking. > > > > ________________________________ > From: raunchydog <raunchydog@...> > To: [email protected] > Sent: Tuesday, November 20, 2012 9:24 AM > Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: to laughinggull a new kind of good life > > >  > > > --- In [email protected], Share Long <sharelong60@> wrote: > > > > LG, finally there's an opportunity to say something I've been wanting to > > say to you for a few days. Which is, I think a lot of us in Fairfield are > > living a new kind of good life. Consequently I rarely if ever feel like a > > victim. Even childhood traumas I recognize as opportunities to balance > > out karmic debts. Nonetheless such traumas leave their influence in the > > form of chemical and or structural glitches in the physical body, even in > > the physical component of the psychology, the brain and nervous system. > > > > > > Share, I'd like to better understand what you tell us in this post. Are you > saying that due to childhood traumas you have a chemical/physical "glitch" > that effects your psychology and physiology? Do you believe the research you > cite indicating parental abandonment causing elevated stress hormones > permanently effecting the brain applies to you? These are issues that seem > personally important to you, enough so, that you would raise them. I > understand if you want to keep your medical history private. I get the part > about Fairfield being a place to heal and you are doing your very best to do > so. I guess what it comes down to is that I don't know what your gliches are > and how exactly you believe this effects your life. Are you offering this > post to help us understand your interactions with people on FFLife or in real > life? If so, how so? > > > To cite just one example, there is research which indicates that in a child > > whose father goes away for a year, the level of stress hormones in the body > > stays elevated for a year even after the father has returned. In turn > > that long term elevated level does something seemingly permanent to the > > brain. I say seemingly because I do believe there are powerful and > > natural techniques for healing even such seemingly permanent damage. > > Anyway, these glitches must first be recognized before they can be > > addressed and healed. > > > > > > This is all simply to say that I don't feel like a victim of anyone or > > anything. But I do recognize my glitches and I pursue healing them. But > > because I can pursue healing them, I don't feel like a victim at all. > > Just the opposite, I feel very fortunate. > > > > > > Now to fold in the Antifragile post: I feel grateful for Fairfield > > because it is a place where I can fairly easily deal with these glitches > > and still make something of a contribution to others. Obviously some > > people have few glitches. Perhaps they are the ones who thrive in places > > like NYC. But I believe that the world needs all kinds of people. FF > > has all kinds, including Jeffrey Smith who is world renowned opponent of > > GMO and those who are in the Dome 7-8 hours a day and those who are retired > > and frequent the cafes. > > > > > > FF offers a new and very good kind of life. FFL hopefully helps me > > integrate all that goodness. Off to Dome and thank you (-:  > > >
