--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "seventhray27" wrote:
>
>
>
> --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Share Long wrote:
> >
> > Steve I always bow to your wisdom and expertise in terms of happy
> marriage which it's obvious you and your wife have created. Your
> relationship skills are also obvious here.Â
>
> Can you say more about how marriage has to do with simply taking a
vow?
>
> I am just saying, that that is where it starts. And hopefully you have
> done enough due diligence (and love, of course) to know that you are
committed to make it
> through the rocky times, which are bound to come.
>
> , and  Many simply take a vow and yet at least 50% of marriages
end
> in divorce. Lots of experts have weighed in on the whole
thing.Â
> One of my favorites is Dr. John Gottman of the Love Lab at Univ of
> Wash. They have an accuracy rate in the 90 percentile range in
> predicting which marriages will last, based on observation.Â
>
> One key aspect involves a 5 to 1 ratio, 5 positive interactions for
> every negative one.Â
>
>
> Well, that makes sense. In my case, even though we knew each other,
and
> dated for two years, there was still quite a period of adjustment as
we
> came from two different backgrounds, and had different religious and
> political beliefs. And over time that ratio changed, and has become
> more in line with what is a predictor of a successful marriage.
> >
> > Maybe it makes you smile because you simply live the day to day
> reality of having achieved a happy marriage. But some of us have
to
> think about these things (-:Â
>
> Well, you work at it every day. And some days are easier than others.
> But it helps to know that you are committed to each other. Without
> that, you don't have much.
> >
> >
> > ________________________________
> > From: seventhray27
> > To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com
> > Sent: Tuesday, February 12, 2013 10:48 PM
> > Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: Uber-narcissists who would fit right in
> on FFL
> >
> >
> > Â
> >
> > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Share Long wrote:
> > >
> > > I think everybody's interesting when we are first getting to know
> them.ÃÂ But if either of us is stuck, not growing, then
eventually
> familiarity and or sameness will give rise to an experience of someone
> not being interesting.
> > This has sort of piqued my interest. It has so much to do with
> romance, and love, and long term committments, and what makes for a
long
> term relationship.
> > With regard to marriage, I think a lot of it has to do with simply
> taking a vow.
> > For some reason this whole idea makes me smile. There are just so
many
> factors that make a relationship last. And yes, spiritual and
emotional
> growth have a lot to do with it, as well as being willing to change,
and
> accept your partner for who they are as well.
> > Â
> > ÃÂ I like how Ammachi says that Love is never bored.ÃÂ I
> notice when I'm what I'll call in the zone, I'm not bored, even if
> everything and everyone is the same on the surface of life.ÃÂ
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > ________________________________
> > > From: Susan
> > > To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com
> > > Sent: Sunday, February 10, 2013 8:04 AM
> > > Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: Uber-narcissists who would fit right
in
> on FFL
> > >
> > >
> > > ÃÂ
> > > This does not sound like narcissism, but
> psychosis/paranoia/schizophrenia or something in that ballpark.
> > >
> > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, turquoiseb wrote:
> > > >
> > > > These folks remind me of people like Robin, who assume that
> they're
> > > > actually interesting enough that people would want to tune into
> their
> > > > lives full-time.
> > > > Cases of 'Truman Show' delusions on the rise as more people
> believe
> > > > they're the stars of their own reality TV programsReality TV
shows
> are
> > > > making increasing numbers of people convinced that they're the
> stars of
> > > > their own, unwanted television programs.
> > > > Psychiatrists are treating more people for so-called 'Truman
Show'
> > > > delusions -- named after the 1998 movie starring Jim Carrey as a
> man
> > > > who spends his entire life unwittingly at the center of a
> fictional
> > > > world that's being broadcast to millions of homes.
> > > >
> > > > The startling cases often afflict successful people who develop
> > > > paranoid fantasies that they're being filmed at all times and
that
> the
> > > > world that's in front of them isn't real.
> > > > [Truman Show]
> > > > They're being watched: People suffering from 'Truman Show'
> delusions
> > > > believe they are the star of a TV program like Jim Carrey's
> character
> > > > in the 1998 movie
> > > >
> > > > Their friends and loves ones are actors. The news they see on TV
> is
> > > > made up to control the way they think. The things that happen to
> them
> > > > are merely events staged for the amusement of others.
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > The result can turn disturbing and even violent.
> > > > In 2009, Anthony Waterlow killed his father and his sister in
> Australia
> > > > because he believed they were broadcasting his life to the world
> as
> > > > part of a game show to either murder him or convince him to kill
> > > > himself.
> > > >
> > > > During a psychological exam, he specially mentioned 'The Truman
> Show,'
> > > > according to the Sydney Morning Herald
> > > >
> > > -20110412-1dcpz.html#ixzz1wHr2bspd> .
> > > >
> > > > [Truman show]
> > > > Affliction: The paranoid suspicion of being spied on has driven
> some
> > > > people to violence -- even murder -- in event years
> > > >
> > > > In 2007, psychiatrist William Johns III allegedly assaulted a
> > > > 2-year-old and his mother in New York City after he left his
home
> in
> > > > Florida because he 'had to get out of the Truman Show' that he
> believed
> > > > was filming him in his home town, according to ABC News
> > > > .
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > Drs Joel and Ian Gold, researchers at New York University and
> McGill
> > > > University in Montreal, respectively, recently published a
series
> of
> > > > case studies about suffers of 'Truman Show' delusions.
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > Their article in the journal Cognitive Neuropsychiatry
> > > >
> > > > , followed five patients who believed their lives were the
center
> of a
> > > > secret TV show.
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > One patient traveled to New York City and walked in a federal
> building
> > > > and demanded to see 'the director.' He said he had to come to
> Manhattan
> > > > because he believed the World Trade Center attacks had been
faked
> for
> > > > the TV show being filmed around him, according to BuzzFeed
> > > >
> > > mmon> .
> > > >
> > > > He said he had to see for himself whether the twin towers were
> still
> > > > standing. If they weren't, he said, it would be final proof that
> he was
> > > > the unwilling star of a reality TV program.
> > > >
> > >
> >
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