--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "Irmeli Mattsson" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > Their way of relating to each other feels like a troubled > > > marriage. > > > > Except that at the beginning of a marriage, > > the two people think they love each other. > > That they start out this way is an important > > component of their later troubles which is > > entirely missing here. With the married > > couple, a betrayal of trust is involved, a > > trashing of the original loving feelings. > > > > Why do some of you seem unable to accept > > mutual dislike for what it is, and feel > > compelled instead to see it in the context of > > a romantic relationship--either originally > > or ultimately--simply because it's between > > a man and a woman? > > > > You're trying to force it into a pattern > > that you're already familiar with rather > > than seeing it on its own terms, and as a > > result you can't evaluate it accurately. > > **** > I was just accounting about my spontaneously felt impression that I > often get, when I read your mutual communication, and I can have it > wrong. I also sense a strong bond between you two even if it is > felt as dislike. Hate and love are not so different energetically. > They can change places.
Actually, just to give you the other side of this, I don't actually dislike Judy at all. I *really* enjoy poking fun at her sometimes, because she's such a prig, but that's just me. I wish her nothing but the best and would sit down over a drink with her anytime. But I doubt very seriously that she would agree. You see, as she has stated very clearly above, she really *does* dislike me. I think that there is probably a nice self in there somewhere if it just stopped trying to impress it-self and other selves. ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor --------------------~--> Get fast access to your favorite Yahoo! Groups. Make Yahoo! your home page http://us.click.yahoo.com/dpRU5A/wUILAA/yQLSAA/JjtolB/TM --------------------------------------------------------------------~-> To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
