can you understand that it is not a normal situation when one person is a faculty member and the other is one of his or her students. Some institutions of higher learning frown upon that situation to the degree that if caught at it, even a tenured faculty member can lose their position - MUM doesn't have that high a standard obviously feeling that adherence to natural law is more important
________________________________ From: feste37 <fest...@yahoo.com> To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com Sent: Sunday, May 26, 2013 2:18 PM Subject: [FairfieldLife] Re: BatGap Panel Discussi John Hagelin, Ph.D., Igor Kufayev, and Mark McCooey. Moderated by Rick Archer --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" <authfriend@...> wrote: > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "feste37" <feste37@> wrote: > > > > Many people who get abused are weak, and it is their weakness > > that attracts the abuse. The abuser instinctively smells out > > weakness, and it incites his cruelty. You can blame the abuser > > if you want, but it always takes two: one who asks to be > > abused, and the other who obliges. If you want to alter the > > pattern, get stronger. > > But sometimes the "weakness" is not characterological but > circumstantial--e.g., if a woman is, say, a single mother > who desperately needs to hold onto her job so she can feed > her kids, and is given to understand by her abusive superior, > at least implicitly, that if she doesn't submit to his whims > or if she makes any kind of fuss, she'll be fired. He knows > she's in a weak position and takes advantage of it to > satisfy his desires. > > I think it makes a lot less sense to hold the woman equally > accountable with the man in that sort of situation. There > are many variations on this scenario (including reversing > the genders) in which the circumstances are stacked against > the victim. > Yes, of course. That wasn't the scenario I had in mind. I was thinking of, say, an ordinary dating situation or one in which two people perhaps in similar circumstances are getting to know each other.
