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7 Habits of Chronically Unhappy People
 
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I often teach about happiness and what has become exceedingly clear is this: 
There are seven qualities chronically unhappy people have mastered.
According to Psychology Today, University of California researcher Sonja 
Lyubomirsky states: "40 percent of our of our capacity for happiness is within 
our power to change."If this is true and it is, there's hope for us all. There 
are billions of people on our planet and clearly some are truly happy. The rest 
of us bounce back and forth between happiness and unhappiness depending on the 
day.Throughout the years, I've learned there are certain traits and habits 
chronically unhappy people seem to have mastered. But before diving in with 
you, let me preface this and say: we all have bad days, even weeks when we fall 
down in all seven areas.The difference between a happy and unhappy life is how 
often and how long we stay there.

Here are the 7 qualities of chronically unhappy people.
1. Your default belief is that life is hard.
Happy people know life can be hard and tend to bounce through hard times with 
an attitude of curiosity versus victimhood. They take responsibility for how 
they got themselves into a mess, and focus on getting themselves out of it as 
soon as possible.Perseverance towards problem versus complaining over 
circumstances is a symptom of a happy person. Unhappy people see themselves as 
victims of life and stay stuck in the "look what happened to me" attitude 
versus finding a way through and out the other side.2. You believe most people 
can't be trusted.
I won't argue that healthy discernment is important, but most happy people are 
trusting of their fellow man. They believe in the good in people, versus 
assuming everyone is out to get them. Generally open and friendly towards 
people they meet, happy people foster a sense of community around themselves 
and meet new people with an open heart.Unhappy people are distrustful of most 
people they meet and assume that strangers can't be trusted. Unfortunately this 
behavior slowly starts to close the door on any connection outside of an 
inner-circle and thwarts all chances of meeting new friends.3. You concentrate 
on what's wrong in this world versus what's right.
There's plenty wrong with this world, no arguments here, yet unhappy people 
turn a blind eye to what's actually right in this world and instead focus on 
what's wrong. You can spot them a mile away, they'll be the ones complaining 
and responding to any positive attributes of our world with "yeah but".Happy 
people are aware of global issues, but balance their concern with also seeing 
what's right. I like to call this keeping both eyes open. Unhappy people tend 
to close one eye towards anything good in this world in fear they might be 
distracted from what's wrong. Happy people keep it in perspective. They know 
our world has problems and they also keep an eye on what's right.4. You compare 
yourself to others and harbor jealousy.
Unhappy people believe someone else's good fortune steals from their own. They 
believe there's not enough goodness to go around and constantly compare yours 
against theirs. This leads to jealousy and resentment.Happy people know that 
your good luck and circumstance are merely signs of what they too can aspire to 
achieve. Happy people believe they carry a unique blueprint that can't be 
duplicated or stolen from -- by anyone on the planet. They believe in unlimited 
possibilities and don't get bogged down by thinking one person's good fortune 
limits their possible outcome in life.5. You strive to control your life.
There's a difference between control and striving to achieve our goals. Happy 
people take steps daily to achieve their goals, but realize in the end, there's 
very little control over what life throws their way.Unhappy people tend to 
micromanage in effort to control all outcomes and fall apart in dramatic 
display when life throws a wrench in their plan. Happy people can be just as 
focused, yet still have the ability to go with the flow and not melt down when 
life delivers a curve-ball.The key here is to be goal-oriented and focused, but 
allow room for letting sh*t happen without falling apart when the best laid 
plans go awry- because they will. Going with the flow is what happy people have 
as plan B.6 You consider your future with worry and fear.
There's only so much rent space between your ears. Unhappy people fill their 
thoughts with what could go wrong versus what might go right.Happy people take 
on a healthy dose of delusion and allow themselves to daydream about what 
they'd like to have life unfold for them. Unhappy people fill that head space 
with constant worry and fear.Happy people experience fear and worry, but make 
an important distinction between feeling it and living it. When fear or worry 
crosses a happy person's mind, they'll ask themselves if there's an action they 
can be taken to prevent their fear or worry from happening (there's 
responsibility again) and they take it. If not, they realize they're spinning 
in fear and they lay it down.7. You fill your conversations with gossip and 
complaints.
Unhappy people like to live in the past. What's happened to them and life's 
hardships are their conversation of choice. When they run out of things to say, 
they'll turn to other people's lives and gossip.Happy people live in the now 
and dream about the future. You can feel their positive vibe from across the 
room. They're excited about something they're working on, grateful for what 
they have and dreaming about the possibilities of life.Obviously none of us are 
perfect. We're all going to swim in negative waters once in a while, but what 
matters is how long we stay there and how quickly we work to get ourselves out. 
Practicing positive habits daily is what sets happy people apart from unhappy 
people, not doing everything perfectly.Walk, fall down, get back up again, 
repeat. It's in the getting back up again where all the difference resides.

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