Re: [FairfieldLife] Re: 'Emotional Healing'

[Vaj]

On Dec 8, 2005, at 8:33 AM, anonymousff wrote: You're obsessed with this foster home thing, aren't you? No, not particularly. I am concerned that in some instances it can foster attachment disorders. It's a known entity, it's not like something I have to point out. Therefore there should be treatment options in place. These are not easy issues for treatment. Behaviour mod. ain't gonna be of much help. The system often trains these kids in how to avoid intimacy.   Foster home was never an issues or an option where this child grew up.  Family took in a child when his or her parents died.  Try to imagine that life is not organized nor every nook and crany of the world constructed the way you've experienced it nor make your practice in it for just amoment.   I don't really need to, I know that there are many successful placements and many wonderful foster parents. The child grew up in a nice surburban/collegate but not affluent area where the system and foster homes didn't exist.  Children were cared for by every neighbor and relative.  If your nose was running, a neighbor handed you a hanky and told you to blow. If it was lunch time, they called your mom, told you were there and asked if it was OK to have the child eat with the family.  If your shoe laces were untied and you didn't quite have the knack of it, a stranger would do the honors.  People just didn't get involved in the "discipline" of a child, which is what people considered this case to be.  It was a different time, a different place. There are still places and people like this. The entire world is not the ghetto and there still are places where charity begins and ends next door.   But not all of this occurs in "the ghetto". It occurs in every neighborhood, in every class, in many different areas. It doesn't take a unsuitable foster parent for a kid to move. If a child wants to avoid intimacy, he will know what strings to pull and what buttons to push in order to be moved to a new home. These kids know the system.  The neighbor's wife died very young of pneumonia after an illness that lasted all of 24 hours.  The neighbors women visited on a rotation basis to raise the children and console and feed the husband.  No kidding. I believe you. It's seems a natural instinct to me: child needs loving help and attention: provide it. To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' YAHOO! GROUPS LINKS  Visit your group "FairfieldLife" on the web.    To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to:  [EMAIL PROTECTED]    Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to the Yahoo! Terms of Service.