--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, anonymousff2 <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > More inserts follow: > > > > [SNIP] > > > > > anon2 replies (directed at TurqoiseB): > > > > > What I was trying to convey was some explanation for why > your efforts failed to help the person you were attempting to help. > > > > > > a_non_moose_ff: > > > > HAHAHAHA. Now thats funny. > > > > > > anon2: > > > For some reason, this response gave me a warm, fuzzy feeling - > nice > > > to know that I produced laughter in you. Didn't feel attacked in > the > > > least. Even though my comment wasn't intended to be funny. > > > > Sorry, I was not laughing at you. Or anyone. Just laughing at the > > notion that Barry's motives were "attempting to help". I should > have > > been more clear. > > anon2 again: > No apology needed. By stating that Barry was attempting to help > someone, I was simply taking him at his word, and thereby giving him > an opportunity to reflect on the validity of his own interpretation > of his motives. I suspected that you were laughing about that. In > any case, I felt no offense, so needed no apology. > > [SNIP] > anon2: > > > Another question that comes to mind: When is it appropriate to > > > attempt to help someone who hasn't come to you seeking your > wisdom or your help? > > a_non_moose_ff: > > Unsolicited help is said to be on the same order of sin as > caviling (a > > big one) somewhere in vedic lit. > > anon2: > Really? Is this without qualification? It wouldn't seem to apply in > emergencies, for example. And MMY says in SOB that it is a sin not > to tell someone they are performing a wrong action if you know that > they are doing so. On the other hand, unsolicited help can sometimes > seem pretty intrusive. And in my other, other hand, if you're > participating in an on-line forum, haven't you implicitly opened > your contributions up to comments and criticisms? The boundary lines > of what is unsolicited help, and what is in good taste are sometimes > difficult to define, I think. > > [SNIP TO END]
While a vedic scholar friend of mine told me about vedic injunctions against "giving unsoicited advice" - I take the vedic part with a grain of salt. But for me it has become more common sense -- and a little voice that makes me bite my tongue at times. ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor --------------------~--> Join modern day disciples reach the disfigured and poor with hope and healing http://us.click.yahoo.com/lMct6A/Vp3LAA/i1hLAA/UlWolB/TM --------------------------------------------------------------------~-> To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
