--- In [email protected], "authfriend" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > --- In [email protected], anonybliss_ff <no_reply@> > wrote: > <snip> > > Judy, you could just let him stew in his own juices. You don't have > > to take it on. It must feel awful enough already to feel like he > > does. By continuing to engage him you just absorb his stuff and it > > gives him an out from having to take responsibility for himself, > > the opposite of what you say you want to achieve. IMO, better to > > just be a (ok, relatively) silent mirror, then all it can do is > > reflect back at him—his mind, his thoughts, his feelings, his > > creation and he can take responsibility for it. > > If some others would tell him what he needs to hear, > as you just did, I'd be happy to shut up. > > Thanks for your comments.
One more quick point. In case anyone is dubious that I'd keep quiet if others were calling Barry on his misbehavior: When we had that unpleasant episode awhile back of the forum being reclassified as adult because of a certain poster's complaint, I didn't comment on what the poster wrote, even though we had a history on alt.m.t as well, although not as long as I've had with Barry. Others were saying what needed to be said to and about this poster, so I didn't feel I had to add anything. (Ironically, my one comment on those exchanges was in response to a particularly vicious and hypocritical attack of Barry's on this poster. Later on alt.m.t, Barry claimed I had been "vocal on FFL in condemning" the poster. I mean, the up-is-downism is just extraordinary.) To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
