Much earlier, in middle school, there was a clique of very popular girls, who got a lot of attention and had their pick of the boys (not that the pickings were all that great at that point. :) ) While I had been friends with one of them in grade school, by 7th grade it was obvious things had changed quite a bit.
But anyway, a lot of other girls wanted to be part of that group, and logically, I should have too...but to me they frequently had an air of desperation, were way too loud, and supposedly would put out in order to stay in the group. IOW, I had a bad feeling about what they were doing and what went on with them. Almost to a person, in HS they ended up in some kind of serious trouble--drug problems, police records, etc--in a place where that was not the norm. I was very glad I had trusted my own feelings.
I doubt I can explain it any better than that, really. To me that pretty much sums up what intuition is all about.
Sal
On Jun 10, 2006, at 10:55 AM, curtisdeltablues wrote:
Hey Sal,
I'll have to think about what we mean by intuition. For me, years of
noticing people's behaviors and patterns have sharpened my ability to
have better intuition about people's future behavior. I think some
therapist have been noticing so many people in such detail that they
do develop a more highly refined ability.
But I may be missing your perspective on what intuitions are. Can you
give an example so I can understand how you use the term? (hopefully
it will not include girlfriends cheating on me or shooting me!)
--- In [email protected], Sal Sunshine <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
wrote:
On Jun 10, 2006, at 10:28 AM, curtisdeltablues wrote:feeling..."
You may have two good terms for the same thing! I think of intuition
as an internal ability to detect patterns and create wholes out of
perceived parts.
It's not really an ability, though--more like a characteristic. It's
not something that you can really develop, at least not in my
experience. It's something that you begin to recognize has pretty much
always been there.
It may not be verbal at first. I accept the idea
that you can intuit that my girlfriend will probably cheat on me after
you talk with her. I don't accept that you can intuit that we will be
in a car crash next week.
You *can* intuit that, but it may or may not be accurate. Intuition
usually is about things that are not quite so concrete and specific.
And it doesn't always have to be about bad stuff either!
I think the accuracy of intuition can be
improved through practice.
Not really. What can be improved is the trust you develop in your own
experience and feelings, but there is really no way to practice that,
IMO. It just sort of comes when you're ready for it.
Sal
--- In [email protected], Sal Sunshine <salsunshine@>
wrote:
That's not intuition, that's common sense, Curtis. Intuition is that
annoying thing :) you often hear women say, "I just have a
someone mayabout something or someone that seems completely illogical at the
time,
but turns out to be fairly accurate at some point later. That's
intuition.
Sal
On Jun 10, 2006, at 8:35 AM, curtisdeltablues wrote:
If a person goes
to bed drunk with a gun under their pillow every night, and is in an
abusive relationship, my intuition tells me that someday,
get shot.
