--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, TurquoiseB <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
> --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, TurquoiseB <no_reply@> wrote:
> >
> > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Vaj <vajranatha@> wrote:
> > >
> > > What a wonderful story, thanks for sharing it! It speaks 
> > > volumes to your integrity that you have not cordoned off 
> > > parts of your past but bring them so nicely into the 
> > > present. Very open minded and whole.
> > 
> > Kind of like having no fences, as opposed to surrounding
> > oneself with barbed wire and the expectation that anyone
> > who approaches it is an enemy. Can you imagine a couple
> > of the TM apologists here actually having a good time at 
> > a party of people who are no longer part of the TMO? 
> > They'd be on their guard every moment, waiting for the
> > offhand remark they could interpret as an attack.
> There is "meat" in this for analyzing many things,
> including the Middle East crisis. When you've set
> up things in your mind to create a "them vs. us"
> scenario with your neighbors, after a few years of
> this even peace overtures are viewed as just a 
> concealed attack.
> Similarly, in spiritual groups that cultivate this
> sense of "them vs. us," the perceptions of those who
> buy into it become warped over time, with the result
> being a kind of *lack* of openness, a tendency to
> "read" any interpretation of dogma other than their
> own as a challenge and any response other than "Of
> course you're 100% right" as an attack.
> When your self-description becomes "defender of the
> faith," whether in secular life or spiritual, weird 
> things happen. The consistent overreaction of some
> people here to comments that most people would see
> nothing wrong with reminds me often of a scenario
> from the Sixties in Davis, CA. A guy of draft age 
> got his draft notice and went out drinking and 
> commisserating with some friends. During the course
> of the evening, the fellow borrowed a lipstick from
> one of the girls and wrote across his draft notice,
> "Johnson's war in Asia makes America puke," put it
> in an envelope, and mailed it to the White House.
> He forgot about it until, a couple of nights later,
> he was awakened by the sound of his door hitting the
> floor, as agents from the local police, state police,
> FBI, and Secret Service came storming into his house,
> waving guns and pointing them at him. His neighbor
> happened to be a reporter for the Sacramento Bee, and
> came over to see what was going on, and so happened
> to be there and able to report on the Secret Service
> agent in charge's reply when the fellow asked, "WHY
> are you here? What do you think that I did."
> The SS agent said, "Well, you threatened the life of
> the President?"
> The poor college kid explained exactly what he had
> done and asked, "How could that possibly be inter-
> preted as threatening the life of the President?"
> The Secret Service agent said, "Well, if everyone
> puked on the President, he'd die."
> The story was all over the California press the next
> morning, and the Secret Service had a lot of Lucy-like
> 'splaining to do.
> But the real culprit was their self-description. Their
> *job*, as they saw it, was to be alert to danger 
> *everywhere*. And the more they looked for it, the
> more of it they saw. "That which you focus on grows
> stronger in your life."
> The problem with the "them vs. us" mentality is that
> it becomes a kind of perpetual motion machine. The
> more isolated the "us" folks get, the longer they 
> consider themselves superior to "them," the more
> *likely* it is that they will find something in 
> *anything* that one of "them" says to go ballistic
> over. Their very self description paints them as
> defenders of the faith, a "job description" that 
> would be meaningless if there were no "attacks" on
> that faith. Therefore, they see attacks everywhere, 
> and spring into action to "defend" against each attack 
> that they imagine. This reinforces their sense of self
> importance and gives them an adrenaline rush, so they
> get addicted to the process, so when the current "attack"
> is dealt with, they find themselves longing for another.
> And, of course, once you've set yourself up to think
> this way, there is *always* another.
> It's a sad cycle in my opinion, one that can be broken
> only by the person *within* the barbed wire fence. The
> people "outside" the fence -- the "them" to their "us" --
> cannot ever really stop the cycle. The "them" folks
> could be playing with their kids next to the barbed
> wire, collecting wildflowers for the dinner table back
> home, and the "us" folks watching from inside the barbed
> wire prision they built around themselves will be 
> convinced that they're planting land mines.
> So it goes in the Middle East, so it goes here on FFL.

Poor Barry. Reduced to agreeing with himself while forgeting to switch 
account-names ala 

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