Re: [FairfieldLife] Re: Perhaps it would be best if...

[Vaj]

On Oct 13, 2006, at 1:12 PM, TurquoiseB wrote: --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Sal Sunshine <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>  wrote: On Oct 13, 2006, at 1:17 AM, TurquoiseB wrote: Judy, has it ever occurred to you that adults don't tell other adults what they'd "like you to do"?  That it's usually up to the  person to decide for him/herself what is best?  I guess not. Some people are only comfortable in a situation in which they are constantly told what to do and what not to do. After thirty years or so of this, they aspire not to enlightenment but to telling other people what to do and what not to do.  :-) Exactly.  Condescension becomes a way of life, and if you can't  beat em, join em, I guess. It's very doubtful Judy would put up with the manipulation in  the TMO were it to really occur with anyone else, with any  frequency at all.  She'd simply find a new doctor, dentist or  whatever.  But it's impossible to admit she's been taken in all  these years. Bingo. I really do think that that's the issue. She (and many others) have a fairly fixed sense of self. When it's challenged, and someone sees them differ- ently, they feel the need to "defend" that imaginary fixed self. And one of the things that a fixed self *hates* to do is admit that it may have been stupid.  :-) Those of us who are a little more fluid, and who are used to laughing at ourselves (our selves, however temporary and imaginary they may be) are often more able to kick back and say, "Yup...I sure got taken to the cleaners on that one."   There's also a certain attachment to sentimentality from previous movement involvement--kinda like a spiritual version of the HS football player who still clings to those sentimental memories of the Big Game. But it just *is* a Big Game, the Big Dream. This seems especially true if this was your *only* major spiritual involvement or your "first love". But it's a pattern present in many of the posters here: attachment to sentimentality. In fact there only seems to be true objectivity if you have died to your sentimental attachments. And please: don't kill the sentimentally unattached messengers. We're just trying to expand your consciousness. Our kool-aid is safe to drink. Honest. __._,_.___ To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Your email settings: Individual Email|Traditional Change settings via the Web (Yahoo! ID required) Change settings via email: Switch delivery to Daily Digest | Switch to Fully Featured Visit Your Group | Yahoo! Groups Terms of Use | Unsubscribe __,_._,___