--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Bronte Baxter <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > > I speak as someone new to FFL who mostly lurks. I sometimes feel to share in a discussion but know that if I do, someone's sure to throw shit at me, and it just isn't worth it. I think a lot of women feel that way. It's why few women participate in this forum.
Bronte, I can't think of any examples in five years or more on this forum, of situations where people who post insightful posts, and who do not slam others or engage in pettiness, that have ever had abusive posts thrown back at them. On the other hand, people who intentionally try to push others' buttons, engage in strong criticism of others, try to articulate the others' inner motives, hangups, and personality disorders, are simply asking for the same in kind. And they get it, usually as much or more than they give. If you are genuine, considerate, not critical of others (stating differences of opinion and analyzing others ideas are fine), and don't post to incite, then it would be quite rare or ever that you would have a disagreeable post tossed directly at you. Let me give you an example. Marek, usually if not always, exemplifies the positive qualities above. I cannot think of any disagreeable post that Marek has ever received. But as a hypothetical, lets imagine your posts also exemplified the positive qualities above, and never the negative ones, and someone posted something unwarranted, not so nice, about you. That is simple their POV or their frustration. Why get upset, or take personally, a confused frustrated person's POV? If the shoe doesn't fit, don't wear it. Move on.
