--- In [email protected], new.morning <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > --- In [email protected], Bronte Baxter > <brontebaxter8@> wrote: > > > > > > > > I speak as someone new to FFL who mostly lurks. I sometimes feel > to share in a discussion but know that if I do, someone's sure to > throw shit at me, and it just isn't worth it. I think a lot of women > feel that way. It's why few women participate in this forum. > > > Bronte, > > I can't think of any examples in five years or more on this forum, of > situations where people who post insightful posts, and who do not slam > others or engage in pettiness, that have ever had abusive posts thrown > back at them. > > On the other hand, people who intentionally try to push > others' buttons, engage in strong criticism of others, try to > articulate the others' inner motives, hangups, and personality > disorders, are simply asking for the same in kind. And they get it, > usually as much or more than they give. > > If you are genuine, considerate, not critical of others (stating > differences of opinion and analyzing others ideas are fine), and don't > post to incite, then it would be quite rare or ever that you would > have a disagreeable post tossed directly at you. > > Let me give you an example. Marek, usually if not always, exemplifies > the positive qualities above. I cannot think of any disagreeable post > that Marek has ever received. > > But as a hypothetical, lets imagine your posts also exemplified > the positive qualities above, and never the negative ones, and > someone posted something unwarranted, not so nice, about you. > That is simple their POV or their frustration. Why get upset, or > take personally, a confused frustrated person's POV? If the shoe > doesn't fit, don't wear it. Move on.
Plus which, if a person is unable to address your points on the merits, and substitutes a personal attack, realize that it says far more about them than it does about you. Actually, it speaks well for your argument that they aren't able to come up with a reasoned response to it.
