adoption frustration

[Meligar]

I had some prospective adopters come by on Sunday to visit with the kittens to see if they would be interested in adopting one or more.   They were a really nice couple, seemed very interested, filled out a contract and went home to think about whether they could take more than one. They are going out of town at the end of the year so kind of urged me to check references quickly so they could possibly get the kitten soon so as to integrate into their household before they had to go out of town. Otherwise, they would pick up when they returned.   So I spent Monday calling their references and then sent a few emails and left two phone messages trying to contact them to let them know everything was a go. Finally got them on the phone today.   They adopted another kitten. It's already at their house. They still sort of want one of mine, but not all three as they were leaning towards when they left. They also would want it when they come back in JANUARY. They also said to let them know if someone expressed interest in the kittens, which leads me to believe that they don't really *want* one of my kittens but maybe feel like they would be doing a good deed by taking one. Because they didn't take mine right away and they brought this other cat home, they can't take one of mine right away...so there is a large probability that between now and mid-January that they will change their minds and end up not taking any.   While I can't make them want two of mine, I am frustrated that they could have had two of mine and opted instead to adopt a singleton and then make one of my kittens a singleton. I am frustrated that they allowed me to go through the process of checking references and then went and did an impulse adoption elsewhere. I am frustrated someone gave them a kitten same day (which is a whole other issue) and as a result, my kitten isn't going to get a home. Because as much as I really want my kittens to get a home, I can't make myself be comfortable with this situation. Their existing cat just lost its companion (their second cat died from FeLV complications). Then less than two weeks later they have introduced a new cat, ok, but then they are going out of the country and then when they come back they want to introduce a third cat?? They are going to make their existing cat ill with stress.   I am so frustrated with rescue and this disease. I'm so frustrated with people who have the means to care for animals and don't. I'm just...I'm just frustrated tonight. I got my hopes up and now I have to write these people back and basically do the one thing I don't want to have to do and turn down a family who would, under different circumstances, have made a great home for one of my kittens. I only wish their timing had been different.   Am I making the right choice?   Melissa, who needs a big bowl of ice cream and some motrin   ���,��,������,��,������,��,��� Adopt a special needs pet! ���,��,������,��,������,��,��� Kittens and cats with Feline Leukemia need caring homes; for more information, visit: http://www.luna-fish.com/blog/blogindex.html or http://www.marleyfund.com