This message is from: "Werner, Kristine" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
Hi -Just to let you know that I know exactly what you mean. I had problems with my Kai from the beginning. In a word - try experimenting with your horse, if you really like him and think the time and effort might be worth your while then it probably will be. Remember - little things mean alot to horses - its all about body language and gestures. With Kai, for example, it suddenly dawned on me to stop in my tracks whenever I noticed that he would begin to turn his head as I approached him (whereas I used to continue the approach and pet him, sulking, that he seemed so indifferent and not knowing why). Now I wait for him to turn back and look at me and take a step towards me before I continue to move toward him. Don`t ask me why he "ducks" - is he shy ? could he not care less ? No idea - but I seem to think he is showing submission - but in order for him to submit, I have to dominate - and this is (in my opinion) a very complicated thing - at least for novices. Watch yourself around your horse, your movements, your attitudes - give him time to approach you. So often we humans start in without thinking and all the while our horses don`t know what to make of us because we are not speaking their language but forcing ours on them (in certain cases - my own, for example.) No wonder they are sometimes rude or otherwise disobedient. We teach them to be so. Another thing I realized is that my horse is absolutely intelligent ! I knew it all along of course, but never really tested it out. One time I stood there and held up Kai´s halter - fully expecting him to stick his head in it - and do you know what - he did ! I thought that was so fantastic, I began operating under the motto - if I expect mor from him, he will willingly oblige - I just have to ask. Nowadays my friendship with Kai is much much better. We "click", which is something I never thought I would be saying about us. We go on hour-long walks - climb over stumps and branches and other little gymnastic exercises. When I ride he is absolutley obedient. (Therefore I decided at one point to cut out, for example, the longing, which he hates.) Time and challenge strengthens bonds, just like the others have said. I agree wholeheartedly. > -----Original Message----- > From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [SMTP:[EMAIL PROTECTED] > Sent: Dienstag, 17. November 1998 03:32 > To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > Subject: Re: Oops! More info! > > This message is from: [EMAIL PROTECTED] (jean gayle) > > I am looking for a sweet horse if you want to find a good home for > him. Jean :) > > > >This message is from: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > > >In a message dated 11/16/98 15:04:29 Pacific Standard Time, > [EMAIL PROTECTED] > >writes: > > > ><< He's a sweet horse and I have nothing against him, I just don't > > have a "connection" with him. Has anyone else ever had that problem > or is > > it just me? >> > > > >It's not just you. Just as certain people seem to click, and others > can > >grate, it's the same with horse relationships. Luckily, my own > personal > >horses and I have always been on the same wavelength, but with some > it takes > >longer than others. I know Juniper and I did not have an instant > rapport, but > >it developed as we went through some rough times and some good times > together. > >Sometimes also you need to just relax and do nothing with your horse. > Take a > >long walk together, or sit with him while he grazes, scratch his neck > >occasionally, asking nothing of him. Sounds silly, I know, but it IS > a good > >way to develop a bond. Just being together. No expectations. > Give > >yourself and your horse some more time and maybe it will happen for > you. > > > >Pamela > >Hoping this makes sense to you > > > Jean Gayle --- A Subscriber at Techline
