Other highlights: >From the list of "creepy" behavior
>Laughing at inappropriate times >Talking too much about a topic >Displaying too much or too little emotion >Smiling peculiarly >Having excessively pale skin >Having bags under their eyes and then >Here’s the thing: not being creepy *isn’t that hard*. >Many of the examples of creepy behavior listed in the Knox University study could be avoided throughbasic social calibration <http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2012/10/art-social-calibration/all/1/> and being aware of the other person’s signals. Setting aside that a lot of Wikipedians don't have "basic social calibration", a lot of these behaviors are uncontrollable in general. If you're "suggesting that Wikipedia editors display aberrant behavior which prospective female editors find creepy, making it less likely that they will contribute?", as another has proposed, a lot (but not all) of these "creepy traits" that allegedly make women less likely to contribute are uncontrollable by those who have them. I need to stop smiling peculiarly? What does that mean? And if we want to attract women to Wikipedia by removing creepy people, does that mean I might get banned due to me talking "too much" about a certain topic? On May 10, 2016 12:25 PM, "Nathan" <nawr...@gmail.com> wrote: > It boils down to "people with aberrant behavior or bearing produce anxiety > in women." This is drawn from a Facebook survey. It's interesting, even if > the "study" doesn't really produce any more knowledge than most other > Facebook surveys. > > The link to the problem of addressing Wikipedia's gendergap seems tenuous; > are you suggesting that Wikipedia editors display aberrant behavior which > prospective female editors find creepy, making it less likely that they > will contribute? > > On Tue, May 10, 2016 at 12:01 PM, Neotarf <neot...@gmail.com> wrote: > >> A study published in the journal New Ideas in Psychology, unfortunately >> behind a paywall, reviewed by Dr. NerdLove. [1] >> >> Some highlights: >> >> *"*So we’re not allowed to give women compliments? – *No, telling a >> woman how sexy she is isn’t a compliment, especially when you don’t have >> that level of intimacy with her." >> >> *"One of the keys to what made someone creepy was the potential for >> ambiguity. The study’s authors suggest that because one’s creep-radar is >> keyed towards finding potential threats, the ambiguousness of somebody’s >> behavior could make people uncomfortable. After all, if you’re continually >> wondering if this person actually poses a threat to you, you’re left in a >> state of anxious paralysis; you’re continually on edge trying to determine >> just what the appropriate reaction to the situation is. Guessing wrong can >> have consequences, after all; misjudge a potential threat and now you’ve >> made yourself vulnerable to someone who means you harm." >> >> *"One of the most common ways guys are creepy is by ignoring issues of >> boundaries and demonstrating that they have more information about somebody >> than they should." Example from Instagram: He: "So I take it you're staying >> at the Excalibur?" She: "Excuse me, do you not seriously realize how >> f*cking creepy it is for a stranger to message a woman out of the blue >> insinuating he knows where she is?" >> >> *From the comments: "Someone who comes close to that line and manages not >> to cross it obviously knows where it is." >> >> [1] http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2016/05/the-science-of-being-creepy/ >> >> _______________________________________________ >> Gendergap mailing list >> Gendergap@lists.wikimedia.org >> To manage your subscription preferences, including unsubscribing, please >> visit: >> https://lists.wikimedia.org/mailman/listinfo/gendergap >> > > > _______________________________________________ > Gendergap mailing list > Gendergap@lists.wikimedia.org > To manage your subscription preferences, including unsubscribing, please > visit: > https://lists.wikimedia.org/mailman/listinfo/gendergap >
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