First of all let me say that the internet is an evil form of communication. It
denies us every form of sensory reception and yet affords us the opportunity
for intellectual stimulation. Given this limitation, our friendships are formed
based on shared opinions, but ruptured at the drop of a hat, when imagined
slights take place. Before we know it, we are mud-slinging back and forth, and
causing such grave emotional harm, which we would never do, had we the
opportunity to see the other person wince.
Which brings me to the point of this post. I think a good personal relationship
on Goanet, that of FN and Cornel. For what it's worth, I think Goanet is poorer
without Cornel. For instance, he has shared insights with me on life in Africa,
that would have been of great interest to Goans at large. Conversely, without
Goanet, which to me is FN's baby, we are all the poorer. Other forums have not
be able to create the vibrancy, debate and general bonhomie that we enjoy here.
Believe me I have tried to join other forums, but it is just not the same.
Frederick and I are not political ideological mates. We are absolutely polar in
that respect. I have had run-ins with FN on this account and afterwards felt
very sheepish about it. I've also had run-ins with Cornel over the most trivial
of matters. In the end analysis, are personal friendships worth ideological
differences and imagined slights? No, but sometimes in the cyber-world in the
heat of the moment it is difficult to remember that.
What I've also learned is that the human heart is so quick to heal. And the
Goan heart seems more amenable to healing that most hearts. So, I implore
Cornel and FN to reach out to each other off-line.
Please don't skewer me now. Since I am the only woman left on Goanet, I am
trying desperately to be the messenger of peace. I am pressing the send button
on this message, despite my better judgement but there it is, a foolish woman's
request.
Best,
selma
