Sigh...... >Message: 12 >Date: Sun, 19 Mar 2006 22:09:03 -0800 >From: Lavolta Press <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> >Subject: Re: [h-cost] semi-OT: waiting for books > > Tone is not apparent on a list like this one, so I think it's > important to spell out one's opinions and offer citations.
<major snippage> >I think it's better to define what's being qualified: > >"These corset instructions work best for large busts" (Opinions of what is a large bust vary greatly) > >rather than: > >"These corset instructions work great for me, YMMV." > >Having said all that--I only write to spec if you pay me. And you >couldn't possibly pay me enough to use any emoticon, or to say "never >say never" or some of the other pat phrases I see. I suppose I can't >expect anyone else to write to my specs (as above). But I also have the >right to say things the way I think is best. I am glad that you recognize this. It is very much a manner of communicating based on where you came from and how you were raised. For an example, my mother-in-law's use of y'all, constant spewing of malapropisms, and mispronounciation of simple words, i.e. "Lie-berry", "Walmark", drive me up a wall, but I don't take umbrage or try to hold her up to the standards of gramar and speech that I was raised with and still use. It is just where she comes from. In a social group you accept one another's differences with a smile. Communicating in the manner of this list leaves out the standard communication tools we have when speaking with someone in person or even on the phone. They are just words on a screen and not tempered by someone's tone of voice. We all read them differently. Even when communicating in writing with a well known friend or colleague is different than communicating on this list with so many individuals whose personalities we don't really know. The list takes on a conversational tone, without the benefit of heard inflection. Not all of us are technical writers or novelists concerned with the exactly perfect way to express our point. As for using 'in my opinion' to preface a comment - personally, I am no expert, and based on what little research I have done any comments I have are merely an opinion based on that research. I know this. By saying 'in my opinion', I am stating in a short addenda "This is what I think based on what I have learned so far. If anyone has more information I would love to hear it". Then it is up to me to accept any other information tossed my way. It also says "I am not claiming to be an expert". I think this is a generally accepted interpretation of such comments. As for no real friendships and women constantly seeking to stab one another in the back while smiling on the surface - either you grew up in a very snide and catty atmosphere or I grew up in an unusually amiable one. > >Best, > >Fran >Lavolta Press >http://www.lavoltapress.com Annette M --------------------------------- Brings words and photos together (easily) with PhotoMail - it's free and works with Yahoo! Mail. _______________________________________________ h-costume mailing list [email protected] http://mail.indra.com/mailman/listinfo/h-costume
