It used to be amusing living in Hong Kong at a time when kids were named after Western consumables ... even tyres.

But it's not so amusing any more living in south-west Sydney when

a. the Anglos do pretty much the same thing and

b. most locals aren't Anglo and the variety (and spelling) of given names is myriad or legion even. So no-one would ever worry or think twice about someone called Clare or Single.

But back in the comfortable but embarrassing Anglo world, my wife, Penny, has suffered long trying to make people understand how her name is properly spelled and pronounced. A (Greek) classic though it may be. Amazing how many seemingly intelligent, educated people think it rhymes with antelope.

Now Stephen, even that eminently sensible name has its problems ...


Judy Redman wrote:
You definitely don't have to have a difficult name for people to have
difficulty with it.  One of the reasons I chose to take my husband's family
name when we got married because I was so sick of saying
"My name is Judy Single ... that's S I N G L E"

That, and the small range of very, very boring and stupid comments about it
that passed for humour in many circles.

Judy

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Subject: Re: What\'s in a name?




Peter R. Ellis & family wrote:

    
My wife, who teached preschool aged children in government
      
preschools, finds seemingly endless variations on names. I wonder
whether it has anything to do with a desire on the part of
parents to give their children a distinctive identity. I also
wonder whether it instead impales the young person on a pike of
explaining their whole life that there name is pronounced and
spelled this way rather than what many prople would assume might
be that way... and whether the parent would do such a thing if
they had such a name themselves.

Speaking as someone who has one of those names ("without the i,
please"), you get used to it :-)  And named by a John (no difficulties
there) and an Annabelle ("double L, E, please") I don't think it was in
any way governed by a desire for distinctive identity or took into
consideration my mother's lifelong battle to have her name spelt
correctly (both my parents have middle names that are distinctly
unusual, and both hid their middle names for most of their growing up
years as a result).  It was simply a name they liked, and the spelling
they preferred.

And my daughter's name is Shiara, not in a desire for a distinctive
identity but because it's a derivation of my own name (a
mispronunciation of the Italian form) that I heard as a teenager, and
liked enough to want to use it.  And I *did* consider the unusualness of
it, but decided that seeing it written down would make the pronunciation
obvious, and hearing it said would make the spelling obvious.  I was
wrong on both counts.

Incidentally, I was well aware ahead of time, from the fact that my own
name's spelling is the least common version, that there would be a
downside to the distinctiveness of Shiara's name insofar as finding
items with her name printed on them (they don't exist!).  But we found a
solution to that by making use of the times when a personally ordered
option is available.

Clare
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