Unfortunately love is a much mis used word. We ascribe the love love to
many feelings that are not love. Love is an action rather than a
feeling.
Love is having unconditonal positive regard for people(and animals) in
general. Love is helping not hindering. Love is accepting as is.
Love is giving and receiving.(yes receiving-have you ever thought that
when you refuse a gift or help you are rejecting love? Like when people
say, in response to you wanting to give them something'oh I couldn't
possibly'. They think they are geing humble and self effacing when in
fact they are being proud, rejecting, hurting-but I digress).
People often say that the love a parent feels for a child is the only
true love. Bollocks to that. Soemtimes it is but oft times it is
conditonal.
People say they love their partner and that it is real. It isn't. It is
conditonal. Don't believe me? wait till your partner cheats on you, hits
you, ignores your feelings, refuses sex, gets fat, gets old, goes grey.
I am not saying the love between partners and offsrping is not real. I
am just saying it sin't always love. It has conditions.
As soon as love has conditons put upon it it isn't love.
Many people sadly believ that God's love is condtional-upon behaviour,
upon belief, upon all sorts of things. They limit God. they cannot
conceive of pure uncondtional love because they are unable to give that
sort of love themselves.
The feelings people experience in the first flushes of a relationship
are not love. These feelings go, are tranisent, are what gets people
together. It often means that when they are gone, so is the
realitonship.
I have lived with my partner for 20years. I love my partner the way I
do, I am human. But I don't love him the way he desreves-whollly and
unconditonally. Why? Because I am human and not capable at this time. If
he molested a child or killed one amd i likely to carry on feeling the
same way toward him? If he became a Nazi or white supremicist? Of course
not! I would feel betrayed, ashamed, stupid, bereft. All of which
suggest my love is not unconditonal. Al;though I wish it were, i have no
shame in saying my love is not uncodtional because I know yours(meaning
evryone elses) isn't either!
I know I am loved exactly as I am, now, tomorrow and forever. whetehr or
not I change, improve, back track, beliebv this of believe that. I also
know that love is not from my fellow beings.
