Who is doing the name-calling, Michael? Who is being unkind, without
provocation? Who has done exactly as he pleases, among other things
sending insulting private emails even after numerous requests to not
correspond privately with him, and who has done that for years?
I can appreciate that you and Marcel are pals. However, I think you need
to at least consider the answers to those questions before you send a
message that implies we are all doing something wrong. That is not the
case.
Frustration? No, it's anger that people are feeling because such
behavior has gone on for years. It's especially jarring in a community
that prides itself on being so loving. If you don't see anything wrong
with the private post I forwarded to the list earlier this evening (just
receiving it is rudeness enough; the insults it contains show very
clearly who does the name-calling), or anything wrong with the sneering
message from a while ago that Marcel wrote to me and posted to the list
(and those are just the two examples that are public), then you're not
willing to look, and you might as well admit that rather than give us
all a speech about olive branches.
Kate's "be kind" message seems to be an attempt to sort all this out,
and I can respect anyone trying to do that. Your message is an attempt
to cover it up and that plays right into the hands of your "friend".
People wonder how abuse happens in "real" life. This is how. People keep
quiet. People look the other way. People are charmed enough to not even
be willing to listen to the people who say they are being harmed, even
when there's evidence.
I am incredibly grateful to the people who have been brave enough to
speak bluntly and honestly about what they see is happening now, and
know has been happening for years, because once things are looked at,
there's a chance that the situation will improve.
For anyone that wants to cover this over, no, not this time.
Debra Shea
Michael Paz wrote:
>
> Brothers and sisters! This is the way (Thank you Kate) to address this
> issue. Name calling does nothing, but reduce the situation further (as in
> some earlier emails). I truly understand everyones frustration in the matter
> because I know Mark (who THINKS he's Marcel) and none of the names fit what
> I am hearing tonight. I think it's not time to bring out the hammers and the
> boards and the nails, but the olive branches and flowers to share.
>
> Love
>
> Paz
>
> NP-If You Can-Jack Neilson
