> so it did seem like a hostile act for you to post it. why, exactly, did you post it??? ...... the hatred expressed toward women does, a lot. I think it's a hostile act to send something like that here. ........ So much for love, peace and harmony, eh?
I reposted the bits about your original post that stunned me and made me feel humiliated. > > Not funny at all, for me. I *did* ask why you posted it, yes? and now I > know. > > Anyway, can't friends sometimes be surprised and confused and annoyed, > even angered, by one another's actions? of course firends will piss each other off at times. However, that is not how I read your post. This is what i got: You were offended and as a result you accused me of being hotsile, expressing hatred towards women and in the final sentence of being a hypocrite because by inference, in send ing that link, you came to the conclusion that I lie about my desire for love peace and harmony. Now I know I am not a mysogynist and am not a hypocrite so that part didn't bother me. what bothered me was that a friend with whom I have shared deeply over a long period of time should be so nasty, that you thought so little of me, and said all this in public leaving me feeling like a fool for having trusted you and showing eveyone what an idiot I was in my choice of friends. I would NEVER have assumed those things about you. I don't know that I am explainign myself very well. Of course we all make mistakes and jump to conscluions but your outburst showed me that you just don't know me at all and didn't trust me. My only reason for posting the link was because I thought some people would find it funny. I knew some people would not like the language hence my heading. It did not occur to me at all that I would get such a kick in the gut for doing so or that it would be interpreted the way you did. Other people have sent funny links, some of which I have found funny and others I have found offensive(like the anti arab ones) but I haven't trashed anyone for it. You asked me in another mail, what was my motive for sending it. i have gievn that already. the fact you asked it, tells me even more how little you trust me. The damn thing was a joke, nothing more or less, and to be frank I am fed up with self righteous people hauling me over the coals for what in the end is their problem.(like when i asked a perfectly legitmate question to someone else regarding adoption). It really is getting very tiresome. I have dreaded opening my mail for quite some time and have been telling myself oh don't be silly, grow up.don't be paranoid, how can that be misconstrued or not everyone who disagrees with you is going to tell you to go get therapy or that you are a freak or write people telling them how wicked i am. Yet time and time again I find I am not wrong. I have been toying with the idea of unsubbing. I have been here 5 years and yes to leave it and move on wouyld be very hard. I did unsub after the adoption slap but it iddn't last. Now I find I am in a bind. Leave and lose the positive stuff or stay and constantly get slagged off, have my character assinated and basically put up with downright nastiness. I am not good at ignoring it and am nowhere near as thick skinned as I ought to be. Sometimes I feel so parnoid I actually think that that is precisely the aim-to get me off list by making it as difficult as posible for me. Or just lurk-and what would be the point of that? Trust is a vital part of any friendship, it isn't something to be taken lightly.
