Not that my opinion is going to sway the future of the Western World or
anything, but....   Joni's soliloqy on the pitch of female voices has a what
"passes" as the vague character of homophobia.

I get that "homophobia" charge all the time.  Over the weekend, my
girlfriend asked her nephew if I looked a little like a little boy, like an
older Harry Potter.  Michael hesitated, then said, "See, there's this
unspoken code if you're......."

"Straight," I said.

"Right," he said.  Then he & I laughed nervous laughs.  He continued: "If
you're straight, you don't comment in any way about another guy's looks."

Anna upbraided both of us for being homophobic.

It's also an unspoken code, which I had broken, that if you're straight, you
never discuss other lifestyles in anyway.  If I say, "It's a perfectly valid
choice," it's my understanding that I'm offensive on 2 counts: 1.  Sexuality
is not a choice.  and 2.  No one, of any orientation, needs *permission*
from a straight white man to be what they are.  It's not up to me to confer
permission.

I get it.  I see the points.  It's not really fair to me, as an outspoken,
mildly political person, but it's a resonably small thing to ask of
straights: "Stay out of the politics."

Or have I missed the point?  (Again?) :)


Lama

np: Monk, the jazz pianist on CD

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