blonde in the bleachers wrote:
> It would seem that his friends don't like her
and this is a good reason to end a relationship? Is Joni being shallow here?
Or does he treat her differently because his friends don't like her? Has he
not told his friends'well fuck you, I like her'?
I don't think social class, race, friends, careers, family and all the other
excuses are good enough reasons to end a relationship. Now if two people
don't get on, can;t communicate, can't share, they are good reasons for a
relationship to end. Ending because of other people is rather wimpy.
In two weeks time it is our 20th anniversary and we are having a mini Joni
gettogether to celebrate it. John and I come from completely different social
backgrounds, have comnpletely different tastes in music, arts ect, different
attitudes to life, very different temperaments. we have had no family to back
our union, no societal backing, no legal backing, no spiritual backing. In
fact we have had much pressure opposing our union. However, we committed to
eachother at the get go, worked thru our idfferences and let our love of
eachother see us thru the rough times(and there have been rough times-you try
living with a bipolar abuse survivor!). Above all we accept eachother as we
are and don't try and change eachother.
John gets what he wants and needs from me and me from him. We each have
different sets of friends that supply our other needs. The two sets don't mix
and have never met. Our careers compliment eachother-he a high flying
professional and me a knitwear designer cum house queen. He got what he wated
out of life in terms of career and I got what I wanted-love and stability.
Career never interested me.
bw
colin
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> "Maybe its paranoia,maybe its sensitivity, your friends protect you,
> scrutinize me, I get so damn timid, not at all the spirit that's inside
> of me, oh baby I can't seem to make it with you socially"
