> I'm not saying that "the system" is to blame for these
> kinds of events.
of course it is 'the system' as you call it. Actually, it is us, you and
me and evryone else. Society.
Empathy is something one has when one is brought up with love and
respect. Sociaopath is a meaningless label used to make people feel
better and take the blame away from society. Severely damaged people are
unable to empathise. They get that way because they are damaged BY other
people, adults. a lot of very educated sounding nonsense is spoken and
written about these problems. the answer is really simple;children need
to be loved and respected not just by their parents/family but by
society as a whole. Society needs to get it's head out of it's arse and
take responsibility for the world we live in and the world we offer our
children. But it won't. It wants to be able to buy it's goods cheaply
and doesn't give a toss that those goods are made by child slaves who
are barely paid. Society wants to sleep soundly at night, with plugs in
it's ears so as not to hear what might be going on next door. No one
wants to think about what might be happeneing to little Johnny, doesn't
wnat to wonder why there is blood in his stoools, or bruises on his body
or why he beahves so oddly. No one gave a toss about the boys who killed
James Bulger until they did what they did. And now they want them dead
so they don't have to face their own guilt. Most people express horror
at child abuse but as far as I can tell it is all talk and noises just
made to make themselves feel better. The child abuse goes on under our
noses and we turn the other way. Or we label disturbed children as
having some disorder and fill them with drugs. So much easier than
loving them. so much easier to believe they have some brain malfunction
rather than to accept that something has gone seriously wrong in their
upbringing and that the adults around them are responsible for it.
Adults hide from painful truths, the children pay for it. Any child dare
to bring it to their attention, and they are destroyed.
It takes an adult to face their responsibilites and to learn and cahnge.
trouble is most of us are children just pretending to be adults. The
list is ample evidence of that. I don't mean that unkindly at all. The
wars we have, the sniping, the acting out.......and we think we know!
