>From a post from Paz: Let's face it, when you are really sad and having a > melt down, how many people are comfortable enough to > allow you to just cry to your heart's content? In my > experience, most people just walk away or else they > can't deal with tears. They want to fix you, make it > go away ... anything so that they will not have to > deal with what your sorrow triggers inside them. > Sadness and especially sorrow has a tendency to make > everyone feel uncomfortable. I liked a lot of what was said but don't really agree with this paragraph. I think that people want to "fix you or make it go away" or "anything" because they feel for you, not because sorrow has a tendancy to make everyone feel uncomfortable. At least that's my experience. I had a bout of sorrow the other day. Cried a lot. The kind of big boo hoo that Maybelline Concealer is powerless against. And the usual "how can I fix it" was inspired more by "I just hate to see you feel this way" than "aww, shuddup awready, wouldja?" than anything else. And this from a house of people not used to anything more revealing than the unwrapping of Kraft's singles for sandwiches. I do agree that it is a lovely gift and not always easy offering to give your partner or friend the space to let out your sorrow. outta here for now, MG
