Mark or Travis wrote:
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> << It's interesting
> how people treat you when you're going through a life-devastating
> experience. You get to have a sense for the people who will
> understand and accept your grief and the people who just can't deal
> with it or hear about it. The latter group can include family & close
> friends and you come to understand that it isn't that they care any
> less for you. They just aren't equipped to handle it.>>
As I wrote about sorrow Mark, I started in one direction and then was
quickly swept along the river of my past to a couple of difficult
situations, one with my ex and one with my sister, both of whom could not
, would not and will not for whatever reasons deal with sorrow, not only
mine, anyone's. It was not my intention to say "everyone" is like that.
Not at all. The experience of being left like that was very painful, and
it left such an impression, that what I was talking about. These tender
feelings are so very difficult to articulate clearly. Today, I focus on
the reality that I am also blessed. I live my every day within the safe
place of being with someone so close to me that we accept each other's
feelings, all of them. We listen...love...care. Very special to have that
sanctuary.
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> <<But the people who will let you express your sorrow and will listen
> patiently are a real treasure and you never forget what they've done
> for you. One of those who did this for me is now going through a
> rough time and I'm hoping that I can be as good a friend to this
> person as they were to me. It's an invaluable gift, really, to have
> someone who will allow and accept your sorrow when you need to let it
> out.>>
an invaluable gift indeed.
Mags.
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--
And this loving is a drawing close,
a tuning in, an opening.
Until one perfect moment;
but how can it be expressed?
A receiving, an enfolding
as I cradle you in my arms.
Within my heart, within my soul,
You are my true love.
--Lui Collins
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