Ah Tequila and Tears-the best of medicine! Love Paz on 7/29/01 11:53 AM, Kakki at [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: > Hi Mark, > >> It is indeed. I am very blessed in this respect. It's interesting >> how people treat you when you're going through a life-devastating >> experience. You get to have a sense for the people who will >> understand and accept your grief and the people who just can't deal >> with it or hear about it. The latter group can include family & close >> friends and you come to understand that it isn't that they care any >> less for you. They just aren't equipped to handle it. > > I've known some people who are just cool or cold emotionally, but have been > surprised to see some who seem the coldest be there in the biggest way when > the chips are down. Also, sometimes friends or family can be so overwhelmed > or preoccupied with their own private sorrows that their capacity or > reserves for being there for others is simply depleted. > > It's funny - sometimes when I can't help but cry in front of someone, that > person will also start to well up. When that happens I usually become > distracted from my own pain and want to alleviate their pain. I recently > lost my 13 year old cat. My boyfriend had been like a rock for me > throughout but as soon as he heard me crying with my mother about it, he > also broke down. At that point we decided it would be best to to go out for > a few margaritas ;-) > > Kakki
