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First off, no one on this list has the right to judge someone especially because none of us have all the details. Mary made a simple statement and I agree that some of you have made "sweeping generalizations" about it.
I have trained with some of the world's most knowledgeable dog behaviorists and I can tell you that true separation anxiety is extremely difficult to deal with. It is one thing to raise a puppy and have it develop SA and another thing to take in an adult dog that has this problem. I have had service dog puppy raisers who could not handle a certain type of puppy, necessitating the transfer to another home, but then do well with a different puppy. So to say that just because one dog did not work out in her home makes her unfit is rude and overly harsh.
Since none of us knows what lead to the SA, what steps were taken to try and help the dog through it, etc, etc, we cant' say what Mary did was right or wrong. This absolutely does not make her a terrible dog owner.
But, Mary, I will say - think seriously before dumping the husband. It really is hard to train a new one!
Oh, and there are plenty of ways to deal with a new puppy to prevent separation anxiety.
Paula
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Date: 03/29/05 20:11:15
Subject: [labradoodles] Re: Labradoodle Breeders-joceanddan
first and foremost, i do not think you are rude, but i
do think that you are very persumptious in your
assessments of my ability or lack there of to care
for something larger than a rabbit. however, i do
think you made several sweeping generalizations that
you have no business in making. i understand the
committment as well as the dedication it takes to have
a dog. i am married and truthfully, a husband is just
as much work as a dog. judge me if you want, but i am
thinking of divorcing my husband so i only have to
deal with one animal in the house rather than two.
what do you think of me now?!
--- In [email protected], [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote:
> Mary,
> It breaks my heart to read your email, and I hope this does not
come across as rude, but maybe you should consider not getting
another dog. The poor dog was a rescue to begin with, and then
because you didn't feel like you had the tools to deal with his
anxiety issue, the poor dog became a rescue again. I'm assuming
he'll have the same anxiety issues in his new home, and I just hope
and pray the new owners will fulfill their commitment to him by
dealing with it instead of shirking it.
> How can you be sure your next dog does not have anxiety issues?
The truth is you can't be sure, and if you were not able to handle
it before, what makes you think you'll handle it now? Please
reconsider getting a dog. Dogs are way too dependent on us
emotionally to be tossed away, by the ones they love and count on. A
dog is a lifetime commitment, no ifs, ands, or butts and you need to
be committed to seeing any and all issues through to the bitter end,
no matter how difficult or expensive.
>
> Maybe you should look into something lower maintenance, like a
rabbit, or a hamster.
>
> Again, I know this sounds mean, but there are way too many dogs
put to death everyday because the owners didn't know what they were
getting into to begin with. Is that really fair to the dog or
yourself, your family, your children? I think not.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: [email protected]
> To: [email protected]
> Sent: 29 Mar 2005 19:45:51 -0000
> Subject: [labradoodles] Digest Number 400
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> There is 1 message in this issue.
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> Topics in this digest:
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> 1. Labradoodle Breeders
> From: "mlchenette" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
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> Message: 1
> Date: Tue, 29 Mar 2005 13:09:00 -0000
> From: "mlchenette" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
> Subject: Labradoodle Breeders
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>
> Hi All! I'm new to the group. I have been a labradoodle owner
before
> unfortunately we had to find him a new home. He had severe
separation
> anxiety and it was under the vets recommendation that we do that.
Any
> way, he was a rescue so I've never had to deal with a breeder
before.
> My husband and I are currently looking into mini-labradoodles
now.
> Our first doodle was 65 lbs. and a little bit too big for us. Has
> anyone got a doodle from poosrus before? Was it a good/bad
> experience? Any info would be great. Thanks! Mary
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