On 14/06/2012 16:01, [email protected] wrote: > Thank you all for your kind assistance in helping me to resolve my quandary. > I believe however that my quandary requires further clarification. > I know the name of the man who sired me. > He was neither father nor parent to me, that relationship was strictly > biological. > The man who was both parent and father to me was married to my mother > before I was born, thus he did not need to adopt me and was my father in > every legal sense of the relationship, just not a biological relationship. > He was the biological father and parent of my 3 younger siblings. > Lest you think he was without his shortcomings, he left us when I was 9 > years old leaving my mother to singlehandedly raise the four of us. > But that was a very difficult and hard time so who can fairly assess > what demons drove that man to abandon his family. > So with all that further happy information, do you have any additional > thoughts?
I can't see that your additional information makes much difference at all to what you have already been advised. Your mother did have a relationship with a man (whose name you know), this did result in a child (you) so that "family" will be entered in the usual way except that there will be no marriage information and "this couple did not marry" will be checked. Your mother married, so you enter a second relationship for her, but this time with marriage details. As you were so obviously an important part of this "new family" you will almost certainly want to link yourself to this marriage as well. The only possible difficulty is how you describe yourself in relation to your mother's husband. "Adopted" is not strictly accurate, but nor is "Biological". You could decide to use "Adopted" and provide explanatory notes or you could add some additional term to the list - perhaps "Legal" or "Accepted" or something. Again, provide an explanatory note if you want those who come after you to understand the precise situation. -- Jenny M Benson Legacy User Group guidelines: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Etiquette.asp Archived messages after Nov. 21 2009: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ Archived messages from old mail server - before Nov. 21 2009: http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected]/ Online technical support: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/Help.asp Follow Legacy on Facebook (http://www.facebook.com/LegacyFamilyTree) and on our blog (http://news.LegacyFamilyTree.com). To unsubscribe: http://www.LegacyFamilyTree.com/LegacyLists.asp
