I think, most of the remarks here are very tasteful, but I am not hundred percent happy how strongly they defend the usual not-saying-anything. Why not expend the borders, getting a little used to a more honest exchange? After all, silence means that nothing is said... Recently, somebody said angrily to me in a discussion, my style of speaking was self-righteous. My immediate reaction was actually and of course tundra-esk, in particular my inside reaction, mainly occupied with some problems that guy might have with understanding my (of course always benevolent) intention, and, given there was something right in his remark, how harshly he expressed his impression about me and what this tells about him and I would surely not connect again to him... But honestly, his remark worked inside me for ome days (and probably dreams), and now I have learned something important, happy that he simply expressed his anger about my style. I have to be thankful and I am - and we connected well again, in a good and open spirit. I think the problem with saying not so agreable things is a problem of discussion culture, we are not used to it and so it appears over-dimensional and really puts us off. But so what? Is that so terrible? For my part, I much appreciate that being polite and sensitive is important, but I do not want work through a list of conditions and constraints before I am open and honest... and should certainly not expect that from others. I think if you do you almost never will speak out and almost never would accept anything from others... I think one should take some risk regarding speaking, and take into serious consideration what others say - let it work, it will only improve your mind in the end, independent of the degree you accept it in the end, independent of how politely the person uttered the stuff, independent of if the person is able to do better etc. etc. Of course, being silent spares you a lot of trouble... I have a sensitive but nice colleague who has (IMHO) a ridiculously boasting website... I never told him so far, but work on how to do one day, because I do not wish him to be exposed in this way...
Cheers and thanks Franz ------------------------------------ Dr. Franz Mechsner Hanse Institute for Advanced Study Lehmkuhlenbusch 4 D-27753 Delmenhorst/Bremen GERMANY E-mail: [1][email protected] Phone: +49 (0)4221 9160-215 Fax: +49 (0)4221 9160-179 __________________________________________________________________ Von: [email protected] im Auftrag von David Tayler Gesendet: Di 12.01.2010 01:08 An: lute-cs.dartmouth.edu Betreff: [LUTE] Re: constructive critical commentary I appreciate it when people point out mistakes, but it has to be handled well. For example, there are some videos where people are playing something twice as fast or twice as slow, double or half timing. Now it is obvious in this case that the player is not aware of it, and one *might* send a personal email alerting someone, or then again, not! If I had a glaring error I would probably take the video down and be grateful, or in some cases if it is just a wrong note I would leave it up and say, hey, I played a wrong note. On the other hand, most professional recordings of Dowland's Lachrimae and Johnson's Almaine have a mistake in the second bar--parallel fifths--and there really is no point in commenting or correcting this even in an email, although could post for example a corrected edition or start a discussion topic on the issue--without mentioning any names. No one is aware of all they mistakes they might make, at least as far as I can tell. For some younger or preprofessional players I occasionally consider mentioning some things that might prevent employment, but I have to say the reception for such information, however well--intentioned, is invariably tundra-esque. When I was starting out, I definitely appreciated people mentioning things like that, but I was trying to make a living and that puts you in a different frame of mind. The point is, there is first of all a privacy issue and second of all a colleague issue. When in doubt, say nothing at all. d At 01:31 AM 1/11/2010, you wrote: >There seem to be several subject headers around dealing with what >this, I'll stick to this one. > >I've had my fair share of lessons and I teach. Lessons or commentary >from fellow students at a conservatory are not for people with a >fragile ego, but all comments are fair. People know what they talk >about, can clearly hear and see what's wrong with your playing and >will say so. And it's good they do, for that's the only way to become >better. The point is the comments are fair and made by people with >knowledge. Not everybody posting comments on YouTube is fair or knows >what he/she is writing about. Or, if I play a concert, people come to >me and say they liked. it. Of course I'm flattered, but what did they >like? Probably something completely different from what I tried to put >into the music. That's no problem, but the same is true with >criticism: what it is they didn't like, is not always a valid point >for me. I might lose some of my audience, but I cannot please >everybody. It is important to know who is saying something, to be able >to judge it well. I had a little girl of six in my audience last >Wednesday who thought it was utterly boring what I was doing, but her >sister of eight just loved it. Not because of the music, but because I >am her guitar teacher, I waved to her during the concert and was >playing _such_ a funny guitar! She had a great time despite the boring >music. > >Now for us commenting on each other's YouTube videos. Valery made the >point he knows what's there to improve in his playing and he doesn't >need to be reminded (sorry if I oversimplify his statement or have it >wrong. It is a point I want to make that actually does not need >Valery's playing, it is not about his playing at all, but the example >was conveniently at hand). Sorry, Valery, perhaps you don't, because I >think if you really did know what is there to improve and how to >improve it, you'd change it within weeks or months. One of my first >videos had too many funny faces, grimaces. I withdrew it. My debut >Baroque lute videos of last weekend received kind comments, I thank >you all, but I know my tone has to improve, not all is quite steady >and some ornaments were downright sloppy. Many of the lute players on >YouTube play not legato enough. Or should we blame their microphones? >Many don't hold notes to give them their 'proper' length, or is that >debatable? Anyway, do I tell them directly? No, because I don't know >them. I teach real people. People facing me, personalities I know. I >know their ambitions and their sensitivities. Both are needed to find >the right touch in making comments on their playing. What use is there >if someone hears from me his playing is not legato enough and he >should hold the bass, when all he wants is a pat on the back and >praise for his brave efforts? > >Sorry, got carried away. Real theorbo pupil coming in half an hour. > >David > > >-- >******************************* >David van Ooijen >[email protected] >www.davidvanooijen.nl >******************************* > > > >To get on or off this list see list information at >[2]http://www.cs.dartmouth.edu/~wbc/lute-admin/index.html -- References 1. mailto:[email protected] 2. http://www.cs.dartmouth.edu/~wbc/lute-admin/index.html
