Mr. Holy Forwarder,

A polygamous marriage - even the worst thing, a crime, which is
opposed by (nearly) everyone - can be found everywhere in the globe.
But no polygamous marriage should be supported nor legalized by any
government. 

Nia Dinata fails to distinguish between individual affairs and public
affairs. This kind of failures are less likely made by any muslim 
claiming to be 'moderate'. A 'moderate' muslim is measured and
determined from his/her ways of thinking, not from his/her looks.

I don't care if a 'strong' man :-) has ten or twenty wives as long as
his marriages with those women were not based on any law but religious
beliefs (or maybe: traditional cultures, 'adat'). However, I would
oppose any law allowing any of those marriages to happen in the name
of the people of Republik Indonesia.

Salam

--- In [email protected], "Holy Uncle" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
>
> Saturday January 6, 2007
> 
> Polygamy is everywhere!
> 
> By JO TEH
> 
> Face to Face: Nia dinata
> 
> PETALING JAYA: Most of those who are involved in polygamous
relationships 
> are often in denial, says Indonesian film director Nia Dinata.
> 
> Nia, a 36-year-old New York University graduate, is behind one of
the most 
> promising movies ever made by an Indonesian director, Berbagi Suami,
which 
> is about polygamous marriages.
> 
> She was in town to attend the charity premiere of her film at
Cineleisure in 
> Mutiara Damansara here in aid of Sisters In Islam on Thursday night.
> 
> Says Nia: ¡°Polygamy is everywhere. People do it but refuse to admit it.
> 
> ¡°Polygamy has been a part of Indonesian culture since the Hindu empire 
> ruled the area.
> 
> ¡°When Islam became the majority religion, polygamy started to grow.
As a 
> moderate Muslim Indonesian woman, I have witnessed the practice of
polygamy 
> among family and friends.
> 
> ¡°I believe that by representing the experiences of these women,
using film 
> as a medium, I can enable more men and women to understand the
underlying 
> issues.
> 
> ¡°The women in my film possess different feelings but one thing
remains: the 
> sadness and denial behind their smiles.
> 
> ¡°Besides, I thought it was an interesting topic to highlight to the
public, 
> so I decided to make a film on it.
> 
> ¡°I wanted to educate people about polygamy and show them the
effects of 
> polygamy on marriages and families,¡± she says.
> 
> A true believer of monogamous relationships, Nia said 40% of the
people she 
> knew were involved in polygamous marriages and almost all ended in
divorce 
> and sadness.
> 
> ¡°Polygamy happens everywhere, but people do not talk about it. No
doubt 
> there are those who find it unique to be able to share their romantic 
> feelings with a number of other people but I want people to realise the 
> dangers of being involved in a polygamous relationship,¡± she said in 
> explaining why she chose to make a movie on the subject.
> 
> Nia has spent most of her life in America studying and involving
herself in 
> film and television projects.

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