Love is seeing the equal...
On Apr 30, 10:29 am, Chris Jenkins <[email protected]> wrote:
> Absolutely brilliant, Francis. Thank you.
>
> On Thu, Apr 30, 2009 at 12:08 PM, frantheman
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> <[email protected]> wrote:
>
> > I could just quote your description back to you, Chris, and it would
> > also apply about 98% to me. I know that amazing feeling of falling
> > completely, unreservedly, in love where brain, belly and balls are all
> > focussed in just one direction. I think, for a good long-term
> > relationship, friendship (philos) must add itself to eros, if the
> > relationship is to have a chance. And respect, always respect -
> > something which isn't always easy to maintain when two people have
> > learned to know each other (including the weaknesses of the other)
> > really well.
>
> > That said, I'm solo for nearly a year now, having spent most of my
> > adult life in two long-term relationships. As of now, I'm still
> > enjoying it, although I do think I would rather see a partnership
> > situation in the medium to long term. Still, I certainly haven't
> > reached the stage where I actively go looking for it. Indeed, my
> > personal story has always been that serious relationships have started
> > out of normal, everyday encounters. But I've been lucky in that the
> > cataclysmic break-up of my last relationship early last summer
> > coincided with the move of my 17-year old daughter, who had been
> > living with her mother abroad since we broke up twelve years ago (so
> > that we could only see each other a couple of times a year for over a
> > decade), to live with me. So loneliness hasn't been a negative factor,
> > and we have a very good, harmonious relationship - the more so,
> > because we both had to work hard to sustain the relationship over the
> > years.
>
> > Writing this, it strikes me how deeply important the love I have for
> > my daughters (and theirs for me) is in my life. And my love for my
> > parents (even if my relationship with my father was characterised by
> > tension for many years). I feel very privileged in this regard, as I
> > know that being able to see one's experience of family (even "broken"
> > family in the case of my ex-wife and our children) as positive is
> > anything but inevitable - and should anyone question this, they should
> > just go and read gruff's story. The older I get, the more I value the
> > basic human unit of family as a source of dependable love (even if
> > families can also be theatres of incredible hurt and cruelty) -
> > something I certainly woudn't have said when I was in my early
> > twenties.
>
> > And then, there are also good friends, and brothers and sisters ...
> > Thinking about it, I live in a sea of love.
>
> > ...
>
> > "Amor vincit omnia" is not a phrase I would categorically affirm. Yet
> > I can still say, yes, I believe in love.
>
> > Francis
>
> > On 30 Apr., 04:31, Chris Jenkins <[email protected]> wrote:
> >> And no,this isn't a wide open generic question. I'm not interested in
> >> agape here, this is strictly for eros.
>
> >> I'm a hopeless romantic and serial monogamist. I fall in love hard and
> >> quickly if I find someone worthy of such, put my all Into maintaining long
> >> term romantic relationships, despite my personal challenges, and against
> >> all logic remain a believer in the concept of a happily ever after
> >> relationship despite a spotty relationship record and a generally rational
> >> to cynical worldview on every other topic. Love is such a basic human
> >> instinct to me.
>
> >> Perspectives on Love vary drastically though, and I've heard a
> >> surprisingly diverse number of them recently. So, I'm putting the question
> >> out to each of you, not as a debate, but as an invitation to expound what
> >> your perception of the nature of Love is, in your life. There are no wrong
> >> answers, so have at it.- Hide quoted text -
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