Rosey, The best resource for understanding Tantra, I think, is Osho's Book of Secrets. It is a nice overall view of, not only tantric sex, but the practice of tantra as the exploration of the mystery within. It is on my bookshelf and I do pick it up from time to time as it always speaks to me. The idea as it relates to sex is simply that the physical act of sex can also be sacred - meaning, a sharing of the experience at the level of soul. For those who have not experienced this, the practice is a way to bring the sacred into your experience always, which is the focus of Tantra.
Do I think that two people can rekindle love that was lost? Sure. Sometimes love dies because two people have gone in different directions. If one person experiences life at the level of survival and their partner experiences life in a state of cosmic bliss, chances are their love is lost to them because the basis of their experiences are vastly different. But such extremes are unlikely and more often than not couples are brought together with less extremes to their differences. My experience has been that a similar viewpoint is essential to a good relationship for me. Somewhere I heard that every couple creates their own sacred space of relationship that requires honesty, mutual appreciation and psychological safety to sustain it. I keep going back to this model because I think it is true. I know that when I feel in trouble in my own marriage, if I go back to this model and see where we fell out, we can always find our way back to sustaining the sacred space. Each person in the relationship needs to be allowed to be who they are, work through their own shadows, and find their own way in concert with the relationship. But they also need to do this in the spirit of honesty, mutual appreciation and psychological safety for themselves and the other. Not easy, because it means we have to stop acting out, but it can be done! And the rewards are infinite. On May 3, 8:25 am, Rosey <[email protected]> wrote: > Molly, > > Tantric sex? I've always wondered about that. What exactly does a > person do to accomplish such a feat? I've tried a meditative process > to no avail. And since you seem to be such an expert on eros and > agape, how does one make an old love grow stronger? Do you think > there is no hope of ever gaining back that special spark if someone > falls out of love with someone that used to be their heart's desire? > > Chris, > > I agree with you, about the age thing that is. Let me try not to get > too personal, About ten years ago, I once complained to an older > friend about my dislike for sex, and was responded to with, "By the > time you're 30, you're going to enjoy it and look forward to it. But > you will have to be careful, because you will think you want it from > others as well. It's the age." > > >"Now I'm exploring the concept of something entirely different...the happy > >medium of the overwhelming passion with the long term friendship."< Chris > > CAn you plan something like that? Wouldn't it have to be with someone > whose feelings are mutual. Some people lack the ability of a > compromised passion. Is it true the hopeless romantics end up with > the total opposite? That's what I've concurred. > > Archytas, > > This is where my theory that noone can attain an equally reciprocated > love. I am starting to think it's impossible. There is always one > person in the relationship whose love is stronger while the other > partner may or may not be as much in love. I believe all people in > relationships love each other, but it doesn't mean that they are in > love with each other. They may acknowledge that the person they are > with is a great wonderful person thus the inability to let go, but > lack that ultimate passion for them. It's not a fair world. > > On May 2, 8:02 pm, Tinker <[email protected]> wrote: > > > Ya wanna bet? > > "We can waste it on inanimate objects (clothes and jewelery come to > > mind), though I think some mechanical stuff, such as autos, seem to > > respond at times." > > When I made that statement I was thinking about the 'check engine' > > light that had recently come on in my vehicle. > > I told her that I loved her and the light went out. :-) > > > peace & Love > > > On Apr 30, 12:36 am, Chris Jenkins <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > No such thing as weird on this topic, Tink. :-) > > > > [ Attached Message ]From:Tinker <[email protected]>To:"\"Minds Eye\"" > > > <[email protected]>Date:Wed, 29 Apr 2009 20:28:38 -0700 > > > (PDT)Local:Wed, Apr 29 2009 11:28 pmSubject:[Mind's Eye] Re: What is the > > > nature of Love? > > > > Here I go weird again, oh well :-) > > > > I feel that Love is very simply a transfer of the Life force. > > > The source is that "thing' in our mind that I've been talking about. > > > We can waste it on inanimate objects (clothes and jewelery come to > > > mind), though I think some mechanical stuff, such as autos, seem to > > > respond at times. > > > To give it to beauty and goodness is simply spinning the big wheel of > > > Life, i.e. the simple pleasures of Life. > > > I believe we can give it to animals and they can reflect it back to > > > us. I don't believe animals actually Love, the maternal instinct is an > > > instinct. > > > Loving people has the potential of extremes. One can give it all away > > > for naught or be rewarded exponentially. > > > I don't believe there is a direct link to eros. > > > I do believe that two who do Love, can do so Lustily, and soup up the > > > Love exchange to extremes. > > > > peace & Love > > > > On Apr 29, 10:31 pm, Chris Jenkins <[email protected]> wrote:> > > > And no,this isn't a wide open generic question. I'm not interested in > > > agape here, this is strictly for eros. > > > > > I'm a hopeless romantic and serial monogamist. I fall in love hard and > > > > quickly if I find someone worthy of such, put my all Into maintaining > > > > long term romantic relationships, despite my personal challenges, and > > > > against all logic remain a believer in the concept of a happily ever > > > > after relationship despite a spotty relationship record and a generally > > > > rational to cynical worldview on every other topic. Love is such a > > > > basic human instinct to me. > > > > > Perspectives on Love vary drastically though, and I've heard a > > > > surprisingly diverse number of them recently. So, I'm putting the > > > > question out to each of you, not as a debate, but as an invitation to > > > > expound what your perception of the nature of Love is, in your life. > > > > There are no wrong answers, so have at it.- Hide quoted text - > > > - Show quoted text - --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups ""Minds Eye"" group. 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