Hi Rosey,
It's well documented that the cycle of a woman's sexual hormonal peak tends to
be in the early 30's, which leads to both my comment, and your friend's.
The foundation of the compromised passion is a long term friendship, with
honest and open communication, and the aforementioned desire to sculpt and
create that passion. It does require a commitment on both sides of the
relationship, but often one side is going to be the driving force...usually,
the hopeless romantic, which in my mind, makes the most sense. In the Shambala
tradition, one wages a war of love...if Eros is the battlefield, there are
three possible outcomes I can see: contempt, indifference, or reciprocation. If
the relationship is based on love, as you say, and there has been a maintenance
of friendship, I don't think rekindling a tepid passion in this fashion is out
of the question. If the response to a continuous wave of romantic energy IS
contempt or indifference, than I would suggest there are greater issues at play
in the relationship than a tepid passion.
All of this, of course, my humble opinion.
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Molly,
Tantric sex? I've always wondered about that. What exactly does a
person do to accomplish such a feat? I've tried a meditative process
to no avail. And since you seem to be such an expert on eros and
agape, how does one make an old love grow stronger? Do you think
there is no hope of ever gaining back that special spark if someone
falls out of love with someone that used to be their heart's desire?
Chris,
I agree with you, about the age thing that is. Let me try not to get
too personal, About ten years ago, I once complained to an older
friend about my dislike for sex, and was responded to with, "By the
time you're 30, you're going to enjoy it and look forward to it. But
you will have to be careful, because you will think you want it from
others as well. It's the age."
>"Now I'm exploring the concept of something entirely different...the happy
>medium of the overwhelming passion with the long term friendship."< Chris
CAn you plan something like that? Wouldn't it have to be with someone
whose feelings are mutual. Some people lack the ability of a
compromised passion. Is it true the hopeless romantics end up with
the total opposite? That's what I've concurred.
Archytas,
This is where my theory that noone can attain an equally reciprocated
love. I am starting to think it's impossible. There is always one
person in the relationship whose love is stronger while the other
partner may or may not be as much in love. I believe all people in
relationships love each other, but it doesn't mean that they are in
love with each other. They may acknowledge that the person they are
with is a great wonderful person thus the inability to let go, but
lack that ultimate passion for them. It's not a fair world.
On May 2, 8:02 pm, Tinker <[email protected]> wrote:
> Ya wanna bet?
> "We can waste it on inanimate objects (clothes and jewelery come to
> mind), though I think some mechanical stuff, such as autos, seem to
> respond at times."
> When I made that statement I was thinking about the 'check engine'
> light that had recently come on in my vehicle.
> I told her that I loved her and the light went out. :-)
>
> peace & Love
>
> On Apr 30, 12:36 am, Chris Jenkins <[email protected]> wrote:
>
>
>
> > No such thing as weird on this topic, Tink. :-)
>
> > [ Attached Message ]From:Tinker <[email protected]>To:"\"Minds Eye\""
> > <[email protected]>Date:Wed, 29 Apr 2009 20:28:38 -0700
> > (PDT)Local:Wed, Apr 29 2009 11:28 pmSubject:[Mind's Eye] Re: What is the
> > nature of Love?
>
> > Here I go weird again, oh well :-)
>
> > I feel that Love is very simply a transfer of the Life force.
> > The source is that "thing' in our mind that I've been talking about.
> > We can waste it on inanimate objects (clothes and jewelery come to
> > mind), though I think some mechanical stuff, such as autos, seem to
> > respond at times.
> > To give it to beauty and goodness is simply spinning the big wheel of
> > Life, i.e. the simple pleasures of Life.
> > I believe we can give it to animals and they can reflect it back to
> > us. I don't believe animals actually Love, the maternal instinct is an
> > instinct.
> > Loving people has the potential of extremes. One can give it all away
> > for naught or be rewarded exponentially.
> > I don't believe there is a direct link to eros.
> > I do believe that two who do Love, can do so Lustily, and soup up the
> > Love exchange to extremes.
>
> > peace & Love
>
> > On Apr 29, 10:31 pm, Chris Jenkins <[email protected]> wrote:> And
> > no,this isn't a wide open generic question. I'm not interested in agape
> > here, this is strictly for eros.
>
> > > I'm a hopeless romantic and serial monogamist. I fall in love hard and
> > > quickly if I find someone worthy of such, put my all Into maintaining
> > > long term romantic relationships, despite my personal challenges, and
> > > against all logic remain a believer in the concept of a happily ever
> > > after relationship despite a spotty relationship record and a generally
> > > rational to cynical worldview on every other topic. Love is such a basic
> > > human instinct to me.
>
> > > Perspectives on Love vary drastically though, and I've heard a
> > > surprisingly diverse number of them recently. So, I'm putting the
> > > question out to each of you, not as a debate, but as an invitation to
> > > expound what your perception of the nature of Love is, in your life.
> > > There are no wrong answers, so have at it.- Hide quoted text -
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