I dont know e_.......... recallig even good memories.. when the ptresent is not going good can cause further discontentment..... to me at least..
On May 18, 7:59 pm, e_space <[email protected]> wrote: > The following thoughts are opinions only and not stated as fact. > > My mind is getting foggy so I thought I would write this drivel about > memory down before I forgot it completely :-) In short, I am > reflecting how memory management has been beneficial to me. Sure, it's > nice to look ahead, set high goals and hope to achieve them, but how > one gets to where they are going says a lot more about a person's > character that the position they have attained. > > I have found it helpful to use the memory of significant incidents to > polish my desire for harmony and contentment. Extending special times, > staying in a moment of joy or accomplishment for as long as one can, > and recalling positive feelings in down times, can have wonderful > results, in my experience. Paying immediate and special attention to > negative incidents is vital yes, but stretching the good times and > zealously recalling them, seems to diminish the negatives until they > no longer hold merit. Doing this has worked well for me, so I am just > passing it on. > > Memory > From the time we are born, memories play an important role in our > development and contribute in many ways to make our lives better, or > worse. Memories can bring us happiness, sorrow, offer solutions to > problems, and help in our development and overall contentment. > > Crying in a certain way seems to bring food sooner, so even as young > children we recognize reactions to our behavior, and store them away > for future use. We learn that when mother gets a certain look in her > eye, or becomes uncommonly quiet, a modification in behavior is > usually a wise decision. > > We continue in life, storing good and bad memories. These memories can > be used as guidelines and tools to improve the quality of our lives. > Recalling incidents of events or feelings, and their corresponding > effects, can offer immediate shortcuts to the resolution of new > problems. > > Obviously, our intellect is a direct result of our ability to > remember. Although intelligence gathering and storing is an important > component of living a positive and progressive life, it's emotions > that govern our daily existence. How we make use of, and store, > factual information in our memories, determines our success in our > selected profession. How we store our emotional memories determines if > we are happy and content, or unhappy and discontent in our daily > lives. > > Emotions determine many things in our lives including what we should > do with our intellect. It guides us in mate selection, helps choose a > profession and determines how we interact with our family, friends, > social contacts and ATM machines. > > Likes and dislikes are stored vividly in our memories and create the > overall structure of our persona. Reaction to incidents is largely > governed by these recorded memories. What did we do the last time this > happened? What lessons did we learn then that could be applied now, to > bring the incident to a fast and clear resolution? > > Emotional memories can induce laughter or tears when brought to mind. > Extending these memories can bring about long periods of joy or > sorrow. It is therefore very important to manage these memories, > putting good ones on the top shelf, putting bad ones on the back > burner. Accessing these memories will help guide us in our effort to > deal with similar incidents that may occur in the future. > > How we store negative incidents in our memory has a greater impact on > our overall mental health than the storing of positive incidents. Many > people hide from negative events only to have them crop up later in > their lives, causing emotional harm and stress. One can't avoid > memories, but how we manage them can have a great impact in our lives. > The endeavor of these words is to describe what I have learned about > the methods of managing and using memory to improve the overall > quality of daily life. > > Good Memories > Rewarding incidents in our lives should create positive memories that > can be called upon at will. Reflecting on these top-shelf memories can > improve ones general contentment and elevate the quality of life. When > one experiences something wonderful or inspiring, they should keep > these memories close at hand, memorizing the feeling of the moment, > storing the warmth that the heart felt during the incident. > Concentrating on this feeling over and over again will solidify it in > ones memory. This feeling can then be called on to make one feel > better in down times. > > Bad Memories > Negative incidents usually have much more impact than good, and can > create extended periods of stress and unhappiness. If not dealt with > properly, thoroughly and immediately, they can fester and work their > way within, only to resurface at a later date, often with devastating > and long-lasting effects. Management of negative memory is probably > the single most important aspect in the effort to attain overall > happiness. It is vital to immediately identify the source of > negativity, understand the cause, somehow accept the action, live with > the consequences and learn from the affect. This knowledge can then be > stored as back burner memory, accessed only to eradicate and protect > should a similar occurrence arise in the future. > > Functional Memory > Using Memory as a Teacher > Since memory is the foundation of learning, having a sound and zealous > memory-management routine improves ones ability to process information > learned in the pursuit of knowledge. As ones knowledge base increases, > the capacity to compartmentalize, organize, structure and record > thoughts and processes also increases. This provides us with solid > memory-management foundation, making the recording and storing of > information much easier. > > Memory on Demand > A very important aspect of using positive memory to improve our daily > lives is to incorporate a routine whereby focusing on these memories > becomes second nature. A daily chore or routine can be used to trigger > the thought process. For example, one may train them selves so that > every time they brush their teeth, they will focus on thoughts and > feelings derived from a positive incident that has been committed to > surface or top shelf memory. This has the effect of keeping a positive > attitude close at hand, thus improving the overall feeling of > contentment in ones life. > > Memory and the Expansion of Consciousness > The memory of feelings may have a huge impact on ones conscience. In > meditation, it is important to cleanse ones mind of thought. Focusing > on previous emotions to begin meditation, on the other hand, can open > the door to sub-conscious realization. By concentrating on a pure and > blissful feeling, while putting out the welcome mat for spiritual > association, can often lead to rich experiences in the sub conscious > realm. > > Red-Flag Memories > When something has caused us pain or anger, the memory of this > occurrence should act as a red flag to help steer us away from > impending danger. As soon as one is confronted with a similar > situation in the future, the previous steps taken to analyze and > overcome the incident should be taken off the back burner and > incorporated into finding the fastest and most complete resolution to > the problem. Once a solution is obtained and the matter resolved, the > memory should be returned to the back burner. Using memory in this way > helps reduce the damage of a negative incident, allowing one to return > to a state of happiness faster. > > Therapeutic Memory > Creating Vivid Memories (Stretching the Positive) > When a really outstanding incident happens in ones life, logging it in > the top shelf of their memory can be very beneficial. It is possible > to stretch the emotion of an incident for extended periods of time. > This will burn the full impact of the emotion into ones memory, thus > supplying an immediate source of comfort or elation when life may be > less than enjoyable. > > It is important to focus on the emotions of the incident rather than > the factual aspect of it. What did it FEEL like? How can I store this > feeling so that I can have easy access to it in the future? What can I > do to automatically bring this feeling into my daily life? > > Moments of joy and bliss are often fleeting, only to be replaced by > life's customary feelings. Stretching these moments, and storing them > near at hand can drastically improve the quality of life. This can > have the result of turning the mundane into the exquisite. > > Imagine your favorite thing in life, how much pleasure it brings you. > Imagine putting these feelings one after the other until your whole > existence is full of blissful feeling. Of course, this may be rather > hard to do, but the effort will surely pay dividends. > > Using Memory for Protection - Early warning system > Using positive memories can help to alleviate negative incidents > before they have the chance to register their full impact potential. > Recognizing the approach of a potentially negative situation should > trigger an automatic response whereby one utilizes all that they have > learned and stored in their memory to immediately address the > situation before it has a chance to ferment and take full effect. > Nipping the chance of negativity in the bud greatly reduces the > overall damage caused by the incident. > > Storing Negative Memories > Before one can remove a negative incident from their immediate psyche > and store it as a back burner memory, one must fully analyze the event > and come to terms with it. Simply blotting out the incident from ones > memory can lead to future trauma and continued pain and stress. > > Many incidents in life are worthy of obscurity, but to do so without a > heartfelt effort to come to grips with them is dangerous. Before > committing a negative incident to a back-burner memory, one must ask, > and find answers to, several questions. What happened? What caused it > to happen? Should it have happened? Did I cause it to happen? How can > I learn from this event? What can I do to prevent this from ... > > read more » --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups ""Minds Eye"" group. To post to this group, send email to [email protected] To unsubscribe from this group, send email to [email protected] For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/Minds-Eye?hl=en -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
