I think every one has total memory of what they do and what happens to them fortunately what people lack is total recall. That is a very good thing. My memory is nolong what it used to be,, becasue I got tired of the nightmare of recalling everything that went on in my sphere.. Today it is not as bad, but there are times I wake up stuck in a cycle of days past. Forgeting can be such a blessing. Allan
On Tue, May 19, 2009 at 4:03 PM, e_space <[email protected]> wrote: > > many people totally block out negative memories it seems. i remember > when i first started chatting online i was responding to a girl who > had been raped and was struggling with the pain and guilt of it. my > comments to her somehow made another girl in the room remember that > she had been raped by her own brother at the age of six. all of a > sudden this dreadful memory that had been deeply hidden came washing > over her with devastating results. i spent many months in private > conversation with this girl until she finally got over it. it must be > hard to work with memory at an early age, especially when those > memories are bad and your only desire is to forget about them... > > i cant describe the empathy i have for abused children...i remember > when i used to think 'right now, some poor innocent child is being > abused' and it used to drive me to tears. i forced myself to stop > thinking this way and determined that it would be better to do > something about it rather than let these thoughts eat me alive...which > is why i developed a model for a ranch for these young people who have > had their innocence shattered by abusive and vile individuals...i have > the interest of several people to help with this venture and hope to > put this together some day if my business gives me the opportunity... > > On May 19, 8:32 am, "[email protected]" <[email protected]> wrote: > > My memory is a strange creature indeed, and truely I don't know how > > much actual control we have over it. > > > > My dad tells me, for example, that I was constantly in pain as a > > child, and not until I had a kidney out at age 10 did that change, and > > so too did my personality. From being withdrawn to being gregerous. > > > > Now that is not what I remember. Yeah sure I do remember a lot of > > painful days, days pissing blood and all that. However I remember > > more all of the fun I had as a pre-ten year old. All the fishing I > > done with my little brother, all the girls I chased at the swimming > > baths,(yep I started early) and I remember having many, many freinds. > > > > Has my head then blocked out the worst of these 'pain filled' day? Or > > is my dad lying to me? > > > > Well I just don't know. > > > > On 19 May, 10:39, "pol.science kid" <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > > > > I dont know e_.......... recallig even good memories.. when the > > > ptresent is not going good can cause further discontentment..... to me > > > at least.. > > > > > On May 18, 7:59 pm, e_space <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > > The following thoughts are opinions only and not stated as fact. > > > > > > My mind is getting foggy so I thought I would write this drivel about > > > > memory down before I forgot it completely :-) In short, I am > > > > reflecting how memory management has been beneficial to me. Sure, > it's > > > > nice to look ahead, set high goals and hope to achieve them, but how > > > > one gets to where they are going says a lot more about a person's > > > > character that the position they have attained. > > > > > > I have found it helpful to use the memory of significant incidents to > > > > polish my desire for harmony and contentment. Extending special > times, > > > > staying in a moment of joy or accomplishment for as long as one can, > > > > and recalling positive feelings in down times, can have wonderful > > > > results, in my experience. Paying immediate and special attention to > > > > negative incidents is vital yes, but stretching the good times and > > > > zealously recalling them, seems to diminish the negatives until they > > > > no longer hold merit. Doing this has worked well for me, so I am just > > > > passing it on. > > > > > > Memory > > > > From the time we are born, memories play an important role in our > > > > development and contribute in many ways to make our lives better, or > > > > worse. Memories can bring us happiness, sorrow, offer solutions to > > > > problems, and help in our development and overall contentment. > > > > > > Crying in a certain way seems to bring food sooner, so even as young > > > > children we recognize reactions to our behavior, and store them away > > > > for future use. We learn that when mother gets a certain look in her > > > > eye, or becomes uncommonly quiet, a modification in behavior is > > > > usually a wise decision. > > > > > > We continue in life, storing good and bad memories. These memories > can > > > > be used as guidelines and tools to improve the quality of our lives. > > > > Recalling incidents of events or feelings, and their corresponding > > > > effects, can offer immediate shortcuts to the resolution of new > > > > problems. > > > > > > Obviously, our intellect is a direct result of our ability to > > > > remember. Although intelligence gathering and storing is an important > > > > component of living a positive and progressive life, it's emotions > > > > that govern our daily existence. How we make use of, and store, > > > > factual information in our memories, determines our success in our > > > > selected profession. How we store our emotional memories determines > if > > > > we are happy and content, or unhappy and discontent in our daily > > > > lives. > > > > > > Emotions determine many things in our lives including what we should > > > > do with our intellect. It guides us in mate selection, helps choose a > > > > profession and determines how we interact with our family, friends, > > > > social contacts and ATM machines. > > > > > > Likes and dislikes are stored vividly in our memories and create the > > > > overall structure of our persona. Reaction to incidents is largely > > > > governed by these recorded memories. What did we do the last time > this > > > > happened? What lessons did we learn then that could be applied now, > to > > > > bring the incident to a fast and clear resolution? > > > > > > Emotional memories can induce laughter or tears when brought to mind. > > > > Extending these memories can bring about long periods of joy or > > > > sorrow. It is therefore very important to manage these memories, > > > > putting good ones on the top shelf, putting bad ones on the back > > > > burner. Accessing these memories will help guide us in our effort to > > > > deal with similar incidents that may occur in the future. > > > > > > How we store negative incidents in our memory has a greater impact on > > > > our overall mental health than the storing of positive incidents. > Many > > > > people hide from negative events only to have them crop up later in > > > > their lives, causing emotional harm and stress. One can't avoid > > > > memories, but how we manage them can have a great impact in our > lives. > > > > The endeavor of these words is to describe what I have learned about > > > > the methods of managing and using memory to improve the overall > > > > quality of daily life. > > > > > > Good Memories > > > > Rewarding incidents in our lives should create positive memories that > > > > can be called upon at will. Reflecting on these top-shelf memories > can > > > > improve ones general contentment and elevate the quality of life. > When > > > > one experiences something wonderful or inspiring, they should keep > > > > these memories close at hand, memorizing the feeling of the moment, > > > > storing the warmth that the heart felt during the incident. > > > > Concentrating on this feeling over and over again will solidify it in > > > > ones memory. This feeling can then be called on to make one feel > > > > better in down times. > > > > > > Bad Memories > > > > Negative incidents usually have much more impact than good, and can > > > > create extended periods of stress and unhappiness. If not dealt with > > > > properly, thoroughly and immediately, they can fester and work their > > > > way within, only to resurface at a later date, often with devastating > > > > and long-lasting effects. Management of negative memory is probably > > > > the single most important aspect in the effort to attain overall > > > > happiness. It is vital to immediately identify the source of > > > > negativity, understand the cause, somehow accept the action, live > with > > > > the consequences and learn from the affect. This knowledge can then > be > > > > stored as back burner memory, accessed only to eradicate and protect > > > > should a similar occurrence arise in the future. > > > > > > Functional Memory > > > > Using Memory as a Teacher > > > > Since memory is the foundation of learning, having a sound and > zealous > > > > memory-management routine improves ones ability to process > information > > > > learned in the pursuit of knowledge. As ones knowledge base > increases, > > > > the capacity to compartmentalize, organize, structure and record > > > > thoughts and processes also increases. This provides us with solid > > > > memory-management foundation, making the recording and storing of > > > > information much easier. > > > > > > Memory on Demand > > > > A very important aspect of using positive memory to improve our daily > > > > lives is to incorporate a routine whereby focusing on these memories > > > > becomes second nature. A daily chore or routine can be used to > trigger > > > > the thought process. For example, one may train them selves so that > > > > every time they brush their teeth, they will focus on thoughts and > > > > feelings derived from a positive incident that has been committed to > > > > surface or top shelf memory. This has the effect of keeping a > positive > > > > attitude close at hand, thus improving the overall feeling of > > > > contentment in ones life. > > > > > > Memory and the Expansion of Consciousness > > > > The memory of feelings may have a huge impact on ones conscience. In > > > > meditation, it is important to cleanse ones mind of thought. Focusing > > > > on previous emotions to begin meditation, on the other hand, can open > > > > the door to sub-conscious realization. By concentrating on a pure and > > > > blissful feeling, while putting out the welcome mat for spiritual > > > > association, can often lead to rich experiences in the sub conscious > > > > realm. > > > > > > Red-Flag Memories > > > > When something has caused us pain or anger, the memory of this > > > > occurrence should act as a red flag to help steer us away from > > > > impending danger. As soon as one is confronted with a similar > > > > situation in the future, the previous steps taken to analyze and > > > > overcome the incident should be taken off the back burner and > > > > incorporated into finding the fastest and most complete resolution to > > > > the problem. Once a solution is obtained and the matter resolved, the > > > > memory should be returned to the back burner. Using memory in this > way > > > > helps reduce the damage of a negative incident, allowing one to > return > > > > to a state of happiness faster. > > > > > > Therapeutic Memory > > > > Creating Vivid Memories (Stretching the Positive) > > > > When a really outstanding incident happens in ones life, logging it > in > > > > the top shelf of their memory can be very beneficial. It is possible > > > > to stretch the emotion of an incident for extended periods of time. > > > > This will burn the full impact of the emotion into ones memory, thus > > > > supplying an immediate source of comfort or elation when life may be > > > > less than enjoyable. > > > > > > It is important to focus on the emotions of the incident rather than > > > > the factual aspect of it. What did it FEEL like? How can I store this > > > > feeling so that I can have easy access to it in the future? What can > I > > > > do to automatically bring this feeling into my daily life? > > > > > > Moments of joy and bliss are often fleeting, only to be replaced by > > > > life's customary feelings. Stretching these moments, and storing them > > > > near at hand can drastically > > > > ... > > > > read more ยป- Hide quoted text - > > > > - Show quoted text - > > > -- ( ) I_D Allan --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups ""Minds Eye"" group. To post to this group, send email to [email protected] To unsubscribe from this group, send email to [email protected] For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/Minds-Eye?hl=en -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
