On Thu, Apr 8, 2010 at 9:25 AM, Matthijs <[email protected]> wrote:
> What is selfish about empathizing with another person? > I don't know. What is the motivation of the empathizer? Is it to make the person they are empathizing feel better? If so, why would they do this? Perhaps because it makes them feel better about themselves in some way. Perhaps because people appreciate it and praise them for it. Maybe it gives them a reputation as a 'good person' and they like it. These are all guesses but the ultimate goal, as always, is to make oneself feel better or to improve social standing or some such. dj > On Apr 5, 1:31 am, Don Johnson <[email protected]> wrote: > > We're all basically selfish. We do what makes us feel good about > > ourselves. What makes us feel good about ourselves is often mirrored in > how > > we see others feel about us. So it pays to make your friends and family > > love you. If you can. > > > > dj > > > > On Sat, Apr 3, 2010 at 12:19 PM, Matthijs <[email protected]> > wrote: > > > Back again with a dilemma. > > > For quite a while I speak with people and now and then we come to the > > > question: why do we do the things we do? Generally I come to 2 views. > > > We live to help other people, this is the motor behind all behaviour > > > (altruism). Or we nor live for ourself and all things we do are from a > > > self interest view, we give love to receive it (egoism). So I was > > > wondering how may I look at these views? Do I really only want to help > > > myself or only help myself. > > > > > Greetings, > > > Matthijs > > > > > -- > > > You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google > Groups > > > ""Minds Eye"" group. > > > To post to this group, send email to [email protected]. > > > To unsubscribe from this group, send email to > > > [email protected]<minds-eye%[email protected]> > <minds-eye%[email protected]<minds-eye%[email protected]> > > > > > . > > > For more options, visit this group at > > >http://groups.google.com/group/minds-eye?hl=en. > > -- > You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups > ""Minds Eye"" group. > To post to this group, send email to [email protected]. > To unsubscribe from this group, send email to > [email protected]<minds-eye%[email protected]> > . > For more options, visit this group at > http://groups.google.com/group/minds-eye?hl=en. > > -- You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups ""Minds Eye"" group. To post to this group, send email to [email protected]. To unsubscribe from this group, send email to [email protected]. For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/minds-eye?hl=en.
